Hi @AlisongsHave made the decision that husband is coming home. What noone cares to grasp is that I cannot afford the upkeep of an overlarge home with half our resources going on a nursing home. I don't have a state pension yet. I am redundant with no earnings. If my husband goes into a nursing home, I don't have to sell as I am over 60, but I cannot afford to stay. We were on the verge of downsizing to somewhere more suitable. If he is in a home, half the joint excess would go on his care. That's if he is considered have capacity to agree to sell. If not it's Court of Protection deputyship which currently takes a year to come through, and then a Court Order to sell up without his signature, which could take a year and be very expensive, so even less money left over. All this dangling and expense is detrimental to my health and my future. (My family in the female line is very long lived. Mum 103 died 2023, gran died of food poisoning at 83, in 1972, great gran died at 80 odd in the 1930s, great great gran also died in her 80s in the 1920s.). My husband always wanted me to have a comfortable old age. I dread the next 30 odd years. My husband's wellbeing and the expense to achieve this seems to come first, last and middle while I am left to rot
If you do decide to sell, and have to apply for a Deputyship Order to the CoP, you can apply for the Court's agreement to a sale, and Court's agreement to sign on OH's behalf or for sale without his signature all at the same time to save the enormously long time this Deputyship takes. You might a letter from the care home matron or GP to confirm your OH's lack of capacity.
Best wishes