I'm still in shock at how this has ended,he's only 63,I'm 69.It's 2 months he's been in care and I thought I'd accepted it but was in tears yet again today after a visit,to see him be led by the hand by a carer to the dining table asking where are you going😭He's warm 24/7,well fed,every need taken care of and safe after a few scary incidents at home,if only he realised this😞I've been reading through this post taking note of everyone's comments as I too am in this situation. My OH has been in a care home for nearly two months for me to organise a house move. Not the best time in our lives I know but it became essential. He settled in the home incredibly well and joins in the activities and responds to the carers when when they speak to him although he has little speech. The move was delayed for a month and I am now moving at the end of this week. I will have to extend his stay again to get some organisation in the new house but I am thinking of bringing him back to live at the new house.
I have an argument going on inside myself saying he deserves a nice life with home comforts and freedom to walk when he want to. The other side reminds me of how it was out looking for him when he got lost when he was out walking alone and the continual demand of looking after him. At the home the majority of residents are older than my OH, he is 77 and most of the other residents are in their 80s and 90s, and their dementia is further progressed and sleep a good part of the day.
If Christmas had not been around the corner I think I would have left him another month to see how things pan out but with the Christmas period it seems to put added pressure to make a decision. One I'm struggling with and it seems no one to discuss it with so I'm grateful for this forum to read how others are dealing with the same problem.