Just an update, I’m not sure where to start. He’s still in the same home, there’s no dementia nursing beds available anywhere. The cpn did tell the social worker about a home but she left it until the next day to call and the bed was taken! It was close to home as well 😔
The home has said they will keep him until a suitable home is available, with the one to one carer. This isn’t really working though as it’s a different carer each day so he’s not seeing a familiar face. They’re also not engaging with my husband, they’re just watching him. I’ve left information about his likes and dislikes but it’s not getting passed on,
The social worker forgot to extend the one to one care past the week arranged and then took a long weekend so she wasn’t available. I had to say I would pay if it wasn’t approved and while they were waiting for the carer to arrive my husband assaulted a resident and a carer. The police were called and the home said my husband had to leave that day.
They eventually said he could stay just for the weekend and then he had to go, but he’s still there as there’s nothing available anywhere.
I considered cancelling my holiday, but after a horrible visit on Saturday where he tried to punch me I thought it wouldn’t help if I stayed.
So I’m away now, me and my mum and the two dogs. We stayed near Chesterfield on Sunday and visited Hardwick Hall yesterday. It was lovely, I’ve wanted to go for years.
My husband is in the best place for the moment, and I’ll leave it to the professionals to find a more permanent place for him. I can’t believe it’s only been five years since I persuaded him to see the GP when he forgot his PIN number and password for EBay. I really didn’t think we would be at this point in that short time. I thought we would have longer 😢