Hi
@DawnR
Im glad you managed to get him there although Im sorry that you had such a rude awakening. I think that the way you are handling it is spot on. Yes, I think that if you visit at the moment he is very likely to think that you have come to take him home
Im sure you have done the right thing.
Whenever I read about people saying that they would never put them into a care home I find myself wondering how many of them them will actually achieve that. Most people move someone into a care home because they can no longer meet their needs at home and TBH, I feel that refusing to consider any other option apart from keeping them at home, when their needs can be met better in a care home, is not in the person with dementias best interest. Moving someone into a care home because you know that they will be cared for better there, even though you dont want to do it, it actually an act of great love and selflessness
xxx