Mil Very Near End Of Life ??
- Thread starter Carara
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Are you going to make those calls to a hospice today, please try to do it early, hopefully you may get help for tonight so you may get some sleep.
Hubby has rang GP so waiting for him to let me know what they`ve said
They`ll call this afternoon and give her something I know they will
If I havent had a GP in this house by 2.30pm I will ring them myself and also tell them I am going to ring around for hospice care staff who will help us
Thing is her Gp`s are funny as they only like talking to my hubby as he`s next of kin
I rang them a while back and they rang my hubby to make sure I was telling the truth
I do believe he catheter is irritating her,I asked her does she want it taking out and she nodded
IT WILL COME OUT TODAY
Seriously whats the use of it now anyway ???? nothing`s going in the bag
x x x
They`ll call this afternoon and give her something I know they will
If I havent had a GP in this house by 2.30pm I will ring them myself and also tell them I am going to ring around for hospice care staff who will help us
Thing is her Gp`s are funny as they only like talking to my hubby as he`s next of kin
I rang them a while back and they rang my hubby to make sure I was telling the truth
I do believe he catheter is irritating her,I asked her does she want it taking out and she nodded
IT WILL COME OUT TODAY
Seriously whats the use of it now anyway ???? nothing`s going in the bag
x x x
Get hubby to request a prescription for an anticipatory pack and syringe driver from the GP
http://www.palliativecareguidelines.scot.nhs.uk/documents/AnticipatoryPrescribingLastDays.pdf
It will contain the standard medications, plus any the GP thinks might be needed because of any special circumstances.
The packs are intended to make things as pleasant as possible for your MIL and your hubby and yourself, they can be regarded as 'just in case' medication, I had one a month before it was needed.
Thinking of the three of you.
http://www.palliativecareguidelines.scot.nhs.uk/documents/AnticipatoryPrescribingLastDays.pdf
It will contain the standard medications, plus any the GP thinks might be needed because of any special circumstances.
The packs are intended to make things as pleasant as possible for your MIL and your hubby and yourself, they can be regarded as 'just in case' medication, I had one a month before it was needed.
Thinking of the three of you.
Ok hubby rang me
He` told GP whats going on and they are coming this afternoon to give her something either orally or injecting,they couldnt say which until they`ve seen her but said this is very normal
But have told him they are sending the district nurse asap to remove the catheter
Now I wonder why at 6 am this morning when I mentioned to hubby could he contact her Gp this morning he replied "why what for ""Cos the fish needs some water you plonker"
x x x
He` told GP whats going on and they are coming this afternoon to give her something either orally or injecting,they couldnt say which until they`ve seen her but said this is very normal
But have told him they are sending the district nurse asap to remove the catheter
Now I wonder why at 6 am this morning when I mentioned to hubby could he contact her Gp this morning he replied "why what for "
"Cos the fish needs some water you plonker" x x x
Do you know what Noorza ??
Hubby actually said yesterday " I don`t know what I`d do without you "
(As I had just cleaned his mom up for the 27,00000 time)
I replied "I don`t either "
He certainly wouldn`t have managed his mother on his own thats a fact
Oh perish the thought of him becoming her victim like I was
and he would have been because he would have been her carer/servant/maid/punch bag or what ever you call it, it`s all the same
x x x
Hubby actually said yesterday " I don`t know what I`d do without you "
(As I had just cleaned his mom up for the 27,00000 time)
I replied "I don`t either "
He certainly wouldn`t have managed his mother on his own thats a fact
Oh perish the thought of him becoming her victim like I was
and he would have been because he would have been her carer/servant/maid/punch bag or what ever you call it, it`s all the same
x x x
I don't respond often but I come on to see how you are. You are n my thoughts off and on during the whole day.
I hope today there is some resolution, or at least real help for you and your husband. .
Jeannette
I hope today there is some resolution, or at least real help for you and your husband. .
Jeannette
Hi Carara, yes ring the hospice, I did that with Mum. They will ring the GP if they want confirmation. I think you need some help. I do think the vocalisations are probably not something she is aware of. Some morphine would surely ease her suffering though and make her unaware of the catheter.
Poor you. You've had so much to put up with. Thinking of you all x
Poor you. You've had so much to put up with. Thinking of you all x
In a very sad kind of a way this is one of the most compassionate threads I've seen anywhere for a long long time. Posters coming back day after day to see how you are doing and I can feel their genuine concern from the posts. Some very good people on this site.
Do you know what Noorza ??
Hubby actually said yesterday " I don`t know what I`d do without you "
(As I had just cleaned his mom up for the 27,00000 time)
I replied "I don`t either "
He certainly wouldn`t have managed his mother on his own thats a fact
Oh perish the thought of him becoming her victim like I was
and he would have been because he would have been her carer/servant/maid/punch bag or what ever you call it, it`s all the same
x x x
I don't know how you've done it either Carara.
Take care
Love from Lyn T
Hi Carara
I have followed all your posts especially when the aggression towards you was at its worst. To be witness to such compassion to your MIL is overwhelming. It never ceases to amaze me how much love and caring is on this forum, in all it's forms.
Wishing you, your OH and MIL a peaceful night.
J xx
I have followed all your posts especially when the aggression towards you was at its worst. To be witness to such compassion to your MIL is overwhelming. It never ceases to amaze me how much love and caring is on this forum, in all it's forms.
Wishing you, your OH and MIL a peaceful night.
J xx
Thankyou so much everyone,
Noorza,
I couldnt do this without Tp,the members on here have been so helpful infact more help than familyso TP are now my family
Well what a day
Heres the update
Doctor came and was lovely,said she hopes if she makes 91 she has a daughter in law like me I told her if she had dementia I wouldnt look after her
Anyway
Mil is now very settled
She has syringe driver fitted with morphene and something else to calm her down (its looking like its worked )
Catheter gone yes I told them take the darn thing out,its annoying her so they did
The district nurses will now call in twice daily and the carers once like before
Doctor asked did I want more care help.My reply was No Thankyou, by the time they get here I could have her changed.....
Plus How do they know what time she needs changing,Im here all the time so I will know makes sense to me ..
x x x x
Noorza,
I couldnt do this without Tp,the members on here have been so helpful infact more help than family
so TP are now my family Well what a day
Heres the update
Doctor came and was lovely,said she hopes if she makes 91 she has a daughter in law like me
I told her if she had dementia I wouldnt look after her Anyway
Mil is now very settled
She has syringe driver fitted with morphene and something else to calm her down (its looking like its worked )
Catheter gone
yes I told them take the darn thing out,its annoying her so they did The district nurses will now call in twice daily and the carers once like before
Doctor asked did I want more care help.My reply was No Thankyou, by the time they get here I could have her changed.....
Plus How do they know what time she needs changing,Im here all the time so I will know
makes sense to me ..x x x x
