I think I’m married to your OH, so much of what you say is starting to ring so many bells.Im not saying its easy sad staffs - I guess you havent read my thread carer breakdown?
I try and pretend Im his carer, not his wife. Fortunately the rage seems to have mostly subsided now, but Im left with apathy and very little communication. This cold has gone to my chest and Im feeling rather sorry for myself. OH got up and told me he hadnt eaten anything for 2 days (which is not true) and was convinced he had a doctors appointment today (also not true). Hes had breakfast and coffee and Ive managed to convince him that he has no appointments today so he is sitting on the sofa with his android tablet. I think he is over the seizures now. I used to think that he was somehow doing it on purpose to force me to attend to him as it always happened when I was ill. Then I realised it was because he was frightened that I wouldnt be able to look after him and he knew deep down that he needed me - even if he never admitted it
No, you wont get through to him, reason and logic no longer works and will just annoy him further. I now only tell my OH what he need to hear at the time. Trying to explain things to him, or trying to have a "normal" conversation just resulted in him accusing me of trying coerce him and telling him what to think., so I dont do it now.
I will try to find your post on carer breakdown...
Thank you, love B xx