Thank CanaryNot at all. I was interested in your reasoning. Its just that your wife sounds at about the same level as my mum was when she moved into a care home - late mid-stage, I would say. It is very easy to read other posts and think that you are not so bad, and yet it is.
You are seriously not coping and yet you do not have any help and are talking about it having to get horrendous.
What is your line in the sand?
I’ve just received a letter from the hospital asking me to go in for a prostate biopsy. That’s worrying enough but my point is that a mention of this to my wife means little where before, pre dementia, I would have been supported and hugged. I’m on my own. In fact, if I was really on my own I’d probably be better off. Since not recognising me as her husband I suppose I’m a just a nice man with a problem.