Oh My Goodness! This is just like my other half. Not quite as bad in the dressing stakes, but really thinks he is just like he was - how do you feel about it??I am with you on this because I have had a difficult weekend too. He hasn’t shaved, showered or changed his clothes lately and looks terrible, he is not going out of the house and his only exercise is going up and down the stairs. For two days he has lived in his night clothes. Getting him to do these things is a struggle for me and when I do get him cleaned up he looks good, like normal as he used to be. Yesterday I had a moment when I thought, here I am struggling away doing absolutely everything while he says I want this and I want that during the short periods he is up. For a brief moment I felt grim, and faced him with this truth and he said yes I must help more and my heart broke. I have to say to myself that he cannot help it, he is a very sick man who thinks he is fine which protects him from the truth. He picked up a photograph of himself taken 10-15 years ago and said ‘I don’t think I have changed much’, and I just said mm.
I find it very hard to put into words, but the nearest I can get is that I am living a lie.
I know how things really are, know what the future is for him - but he has not a clue, and needs not have a clue.
I sometimes wonder is it him that is living the lie, or is it me?
Must be me and thee @Grahamstown - because they don't know they are, and we do.........