It sounds like you feel in some way responsible, Aisling. I could be reading that wrong but in case I'm not. You are not responsible. Dementia symptoms can change so rapidly for no *apparent* reason. I know you know this but I just want to you to be gentle with yourself. You are there for T 100%. You were ill, very ill and you needed to recover.
Hugs x
Of course he is. That's the nature of the illness. Hopefully, in the new place they'll get on top of things quickly.
Not. Your. Fault!
'Rabbit' away if it helps, Aisling. It's takes up so much head space let alone physical time making sure he's ok. You need to keep as ok as you can too.
Hugs x
Did you sleep, Aisling? Wishing you and T all the best today. Xxx
Aisling, it just can, as LadyA said.
Like you, I find it difficult to accept but I've seen it, in my mum.
Xx
As always, thank you Lady A and Molly. Am in total shock after spending all afternoon with T. He was so sedated and confused. When I came home I was absolutely freezing. Have analysed it and know it is from shock. Tired answering the same questions. Does T walk?? Does he walk?? Sweet mother of trees!! Do some people not read med files?? He needs clothes.he has a room of clothes in NH. Has he pictures I could take in to him. He needs a support group of friends..... Etc, etc. Have great respect for nurses but it was shaken a bit today. Lord forgive me. Carers busy all the time and nurse sitting down watching tv with no interaction. I asked what med he was on..... Didn't know... She hadn't given it to him. I will stop now because I am so angry. If a person has no one to speak for them, what happens? I probably sound unreasonable.
I phoned alyzheimers helpline and girl was great.got legal aspect of sedation etc. Told me about Sage advocacy.
Sending support to all of you.
Aisling xx
Ps. Am posting before I change my mind.
Hi A, system very frustrating,not enough staff for real care imo ,i complained etc but nothing much changes,the nurse ratio to 'residents 'at night is about 1 staff for 8-9 so thats tough for them etc.My mum is falls risk and had several falls in nursing home ,always "unwitnessed" etc,heartbreaking.Its another reason to visit everyday to try keep my folks stimulated etc.
Sorry I have no idea how or what to say?
Just feeling your pain....
If only they could see it with our eyes [emoji102] and walk in our shoes [emoji151]
Sending you a hug [emoji847] and hoping you can find something to make you feel better today!
Ps.I have been sitting in my car watching the birds flying around and it made me feel a little better & recharge some of a nearly flat battery...
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Nurses will rarely be free to tell you anything, Aisling. It's the doctor - or even the ward sister - you need. Take care of yourself. And definitely, contact Sage - you do need someone who is used to dealing with these things - you are entitled to information on T's treatment. And you should be kept informed! They should not have been contemplating moving him without talking to you.