Margaret
what was the trigger?
Norman
Sometime I find it all so sad for words , that tears keep falling
Silly really as I read back on my post, just that mum going through a stage of not wanting to wear pads, hiding wet knickers.
As I got her to wear pads the other to day center, that are like knickers, mum wear trouser when she got home the other day she was not wearing them she said they fall of, but they could not of.
So later on, on Sunday keep saying something to me repeating it loads of time , so I ask he what she meant, all she answered then she said I am not wearing them any more, I click on she meant Ten knickers. And she went on to say, they know I am wearing them, they all know. They can see them. Them keep repeating about don’t leave me alone , please don’t leave me alone .
That’s when I ask her did she put her mother in a care home, she said yes because she got very ill.
So what is triggering all this? Is that she relishing she wetting herself, what happen to her mother is what is happening to her. Even thought it was her sister who looks after her mother till she got very ill that had to go in a care home, but it was not a home but a mental home (can’t spell that other word), because back them they never had NH in Gibraltar only care home, so none for people with dementia AZ . They do now
I just think what a nightmare of confusion is going on in my mother mind with this disease.
She is going to be urinating all over the chair in the AZ day center, people knowing this, where if she had a pad on no one would no, but she thinks they will , But she not seeing logic or reasoning. All she worried about is that I am going to put her in a home now she wetting herself, not remember that when she was double incontinent 5 years ago before medication, I did not put her in a care home, I got her the medication to hold it all back, only to start again because its not a cure
I phone my AZ day center spoke to the lady who runs it, told her all about mum weting herself she lovely she told me it’s a transition for them into another stage going to pads, it happen to a lot of people and that’s what there they for to help and not to worry, she try to talk to mum. Ring her any time I need to .
and all that is on my mind omg not again please not again , but I am ok really so mum we both have more surport with the AZ TP for me for Mum AZ daycenter