I don`t seem to be handling this very well..................

Discussion in 'ARCHIVE FORUM: Support discussions' started by Grannie G, May 12, 2007.

  1. Nell

    Nell Registered User

    Aug 9, 2005
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    Make it a keg! :D
     
  2. sue38

    sue38 Registered User

    Mar 6, 2007
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    Wigan, Lancs
    Sylvia,

    So sorry you are are having such a bad time of it after the day started so well. I can only hope that things turn around again just as quickly. Who knows if Man U win 5-0 tomorrow? And this from a City fan!;)

    I took my Dad to the rugby tonight and we lost :( but he took it quite well. (Although he thumped me on the arm when the Wigan winger dropped the ball with the try line begging :eek: ) Hopefully he will have forgotten it tomorrow and my arm won't be too bruised :D .

    Sue
     
  3. connie

    connie Registered User

    Mar 7, 2004
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    Orinially posted by Bruce:
    What can I say - just pray that tomorrow is a better day for you both.
     
  4. DeborahBlythe

    DeborahBlythe Registered User

    Dec 1, 2006
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    How are you today, Sylvia? x
     
  5. BeckyJan

    BeckyJan Registered User

    Nov 28, 2005
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    Hi Sylvia - wondering how you are and what sort of night you have had??

    I feel guilty because I understand your experience only too well but at present we seem to be on 'even keel'.

    Try not to feel guilty - I do think sometimes a rant from us makes them realise we are normal and do have feelings. When that happens here David gets all emotional and tries so hard to please me - that then breaks me up.

    The reading is a puzzle isn't it? - we are going through a phase of going to the library. He gets 9 books at a time and then doesn't know which one he is reading - just picks up anyone of them, sometimes saying this is rubbish but a few hrs later it is the best one ever!

    As Brucie said - today he may well have forgotten and it will be something else to tackle.

    If it does continue I suggest a long walk on your own or with a friend - leave him behind (can you do that?).

    Take care - still thinking about you. Jan
     
  6. Grannie G

    Grannie G Volunteer Moderator

    Apr 3, 2006
    69,565
    Kent
    Thank you all so much.

    After quite a disturbed night for both of us, when we seemed to be taking it in turns to sleep, he woke with an idea that something was wrong but no recollection of detail.

    When he saw all the clothes in the spare room, I had to tell him what had happened. He was shocked.

    We have both been in tears, he can`t believe he got all these clothes out and is now even more sure he is going mad.

    We put all the clothes away together.

    He is so low and quiet and obviously very worried about himself. He keeps asking to see a Specialist. I can only imagine what is going through his mind.

    I would never have been tempted to experiment with drugs, because I would have been frightened of losing control of my mind. This is how he must feel, without the drugs.

    Next time I will try to put the clothes away before he wakes. It will be difficult if he`s sleeping in the same room, but I must try.

    There is an air of despondency in the house this morning. It is very sad.

    Don`t feel guilty, BeckyJan, make the most of it.

    Love xx
     
  7. DeborahBlythe

    DeborahBlythe Registered User

    Dec 1, 2006
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    Oh Sylvia, so sorry that things feel low and despondent for you. Wish I could think of something soothing to say. Just hope that the day passes calmly for you and that the sun shines for you both. Thinking of you, and sending you love and hugs, Deborah x
     
  8. Margarita

    Margarita Registered User

    Feb 17, 2006
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    #128 Margarita, May 19, 2007
    Last edited: May 19, 2007
    I was thinking this morning , one thing & another about how I ended up looking after my mother , then thought of all the people on TP that has a love one with AZ , that is not on medication yes I thought of you and your husband and to be honest I don't know how you cope , but I expect your say you just do

    for me I could never of help my mother with out this medication am just being truthful , because if you never lived so close to a love one all the time with AZ & no medication your never truly understand what its like to be able to carry on alone , so I do admire your courage , have a good day with you husband , Son . I still hope chelsea wins :)
     
  9. Grannie G

    Grannie G Volunteer Moderator

    Apr 3, 2006
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    Kent
    #129 Grannie G, May 19, 2007
    Last edited: May 19, 2007
    Hi Margarita,

    The Alzheimer drugs didn`t agree with Dhiren. He did try them but the hallucinations were frightening and dangerous.

    What I meant in reference to myself, was refusing to take part in experimentation with recreational drugs in the 60`s, because I was frightened of losing control of my mind.

    My husband must feel he has lost control of his mind, even though he does not, and has never, taken recreational drugs.

    I have just found the front door was left unlocked all night. This was after the venture into the garage to look for suitcases.

    I will speak to you again after the final whistle. ;)

    Love xx

    12. 25 pm.
    It has all kicked off again. He keeps opening the front door to `feel` what the weather`s like. Will go back to Manchester tomorrow as it`s too cold today.
    Our son phoned, he has a migraine. I`ve called off lunch and we will watch the match at home. Dhiren couldn`t care less.

    I`m OK. I can see it for what it is. It`s not a very happy situation, but who expects happiness with AD.
     
  10. DeborahBlythe

    DeborahBlythe Registered User

    Dec 1, 2006
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    Sylvia, I'm really sorry that you didn't get to have your son's company and the nice lunch together. You must have felt a bit let down. no I guess we don't expect happiness from AD, but sometimes it creeps up on us and takes us by surprise. Remember that man who came to meet you with the big umbrella the other day?

    My turn to attack a few weeds now. I've been through the biggest disappointment of my day ( I hope). I bought two bags of chocolate buttons. One to use as mouse bait ( sorry animal lovers, but they die happy) and one ,a bag of GIANT buttons to feed my chocolate addiction. The bag of GIANT buttons contained buttons no bigger than the ordinary bag. Now THAT's what I call fraud, (contributors in Pennsylvania please note.)

    Forgive the foolish twitterings Sylvia, I'm extremely sorry for you and want to cheer you up. Love
     
  11. Margarita

    Margarita Registered User

    Feb 17, 2006
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    yes I remember in past post you saying that Alzheimer drugs didn`t agree with Dhire , because of hallucinations.

    that why I said what I said in my last post to you .

    But now I understand what you was referring to in post 126 about drugs .
     
  12. mel

    mel Registered User

    Apr 30, 2006
    1,656
    Sheffield
    Hi sylvia
    I've only just caught up with your thread!!!
    I'm so sorry to hear that you're having such a hard, frustrating time of it all....
    Mum always wanted to go home.....to Swindon, where she was born and which she left in 1948....
    I was more fortunate in the fact that when I took mum out for our daily trips in the car.....she believed we were in Swindon.........which was great at the time ....until we pulled up at home and she would ask "well....ARE we going out today??"
    I used to snap at mum too......made me feel awful....but after a cup of tea she'd forget......( I didn't though:eek: )
    Love Wendy xx
     
  13. Margarita

    Margarita Registered User

    Feb 17, 2006
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    Nice to see you on TP wendy :)
     
  14. mel

    mel Registered User

    Apr 30, 2006
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    Sheffield
    Hi Maggie
    thanks:) :)

    Good to see you back too......glad you got your pc fixed....well done!!!

    Love Wendy xx
     
  15. Grannie G

    Grannie G Volunteer Moderator

    Apr 3, 2006
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    Kent
    #135 Grannie G, May 19, 2007
    Last edited: May 19, 2007

    Dear Margarita,

    I won`t deny you your glory. ;)

    Dhiren did go to watch the match with our son, as in spite of his migraine he still watched the match, and insisted his dad went round to watch with him.

    I went for a coffe with our DIL and grandchildren. We went to a garden centre and I bought some Lupins.

    Not a bad afternoon.

    Dhiren has come home, fed up with United but not, at the moment, with me.
     
  16. BeckyJan

    BeckyJan Registered User

    Nov 28, 2005
    18,972
    Derbyshire
    Sylvia: It seems the day as not been too bad. At least Dhiren is not off with his suitcase full. M.United - oh dear - I hope this did not send him into deep depression.

    Margarita: You will be thrilled that Chelsea have done it.

    My afternoon has been great. A friend rang to see if I wanted to have short game of golf!!! Consulted David who said yes you go off and enjoy yourself. I promised to be back by 5.00 and left him watching the match. When I returned tv was off - he could not concentrate but happy messing around with paperwork. He is a love when on form (as best he can).

    Sorry Sylvia - this seems to be ' for the moment I am handling ok' _BUT I KNOW TOO WELL - the situation can change very rapidly.

    Hope you all have a good evening - take care
    Best wishes Jan
     

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