@jennifer1967 yes I do understand it’s best to plan for these things if you can do so safely.
But please don’t think help is not out there for you, I know most local authorities and housing providers will have teams available to help and support people in your situation, as well as assist you in changing over and claiming any benefits in your own name.....don’t let fear of that keep you trapped.
You will not be just left......if you are willing to accept the help offered to you.
You are still a young person and deserve to live the life you choose for yourself.
I do understand your husband is ill and that is exasperating his abusive nature, but he has always been abusive and if the specialists are right it’s going to get worse.........so seriously think about yourself, because your care and support is enabling him to continue as he is, because he thinks you will take whatever he dishes out.......because you always have up to now X
Its sad for him, this disease is cruel, but your situation is very different to a partner caring for an ill spouse......this is about what treatment and abuse you are willing and able to accept from your partner.....you are needing to get away from the partner that treats you poorly.....not getting away from a partner who has dementia.