So my stepdad has been in respite care since I think March. It was supposed to be two weeks but it just kept being extended. His social worker finally agreed (very relucntantly) that he needs perminant care as his dementia worsened and frankly I don't feel safe with him in the house - I have told him and done various MASH reports - all were ignored.
Despite that he lived with me, my step sister and step brother - who are my stepdad's LPAs and NoK, I'm not entitlted to any infomation or updates as I wasn't classed as a carer etc (he had in house carers but I was still being forced into a caring role). His social worker said my stepdad's move to perminant care was conditional on a panel agreeing. That was at the beginning of April, I still have no clue about this panel who still haven't made a decision. The only way I can get any info is texting my step sister - but she never volunteers any info. My stepdad is now currently in hospital with urosepsis which I think has been sorted but is still in hospital while people wrangle over the funding - which I think is the big issue with stepdad going into care. He doesn't have the money for it. Last I heard his children have to pay a contribution each I don't understand what is taking this panel so long. The home he's having rebite at have offered him a place so I don't understand who the panel is or why they haven't decided yet.
My mum had to have a panel before she went into a nursing home, but it was all sorted quickly. I'm not sure if it was because she'd been sectioned, but it took about a month, me and my brother attended the zoom panel and they basically said mum had to go into perminant care. With my stepdad it seems the opposite.
I'm really frustrated with not knowing anything. I've just heard from my stepsister (after I texted her yet again to check stepdad's health) that the care home might not be able to hold his place due to him being in hospital for the past three weeks. I've tried to get a freedom of information request about the panel and what type it is, how often it meets etc but that got me nowhere. I'm just really worried someone will force my stepdad back here. I cannot cope mentally or physically with him returning. I've just had the one year anniverary of my mum's death and not have time to mourn her because of all the drama with my stepdad, and I've got my own health issues. I'm also dealing with a potentially nasty and contentious probate/will process that is still dragging out and probably will continue to do so.
I wondered if anyone had any information on how I could get some info about the panel. I'm not 100% sure my step siblings are telling me everything, and the social worker is even worse and basically refuses to communicate with me. All I hear is the panel haven't made a decision and apparently my stepdad keeps needing financial re-asssessments. I don't know if that's true. I don't understand what is holding everything up and what this panel do. Mum's just seemed more straightforward and there were a lot of people involved in her case (due to sectioning). Could anyone give me some info on what this panel might be? From what I understand my stepdad pays part (all his pensions), his children pay part and the council pay part. Could anyone advise about where I could get some info?
I'm still worried they'll try to force my stepdad back here if he looses his care placement as apparently he can only go in certain care homes that the council are willing to fund and this is the only one who've accepted him. What happens if he looses his placement while still in hospital - it sounds like he's mostly better so why he's not back at the care home I'm not sure. It's so difficult to get any damn infomation! I just would like peace of mind. Can anyone recommend how I can find out about this 'panel' etc?
Despite that he lived with me, my step sister and step brother - who are my stepdad's LPAs and NoK, I'm not entitlted to any infomation or updates as I wasn't classed as a carer etc (he had in house carers but I was still being forced into a caring role). His social worker said my stepdad's move to perminant care was conditional on a panel agreeing. That was at the beginning of April, I still have no clue about this panel who still haven't made a decision. The only way I can get any info is texting my step sister - but she never volunteers any info. My stepdad is now currently in hospital with urosepsis which I think has been sorted but is still in hospital while people wrangle over the funding - which I think is the big issue with stepdad going into care. He doesn't have the money for it. Last I heard his children have to pay a contribution each I don't understand what is taking this panel so long. The home he's having rebite at have offered him a place so I don't understand who the panel is or why they haven't decided yet.
My mum had to have a panel before she went into a nursing home, but it was all sorted quickly. I'm not sure if it was because she'd been sectioned, but it took about a month, me and my brother attended the zoom panel and they basically said mum had to go into perminant care. With my stepdad it seems the opposite.
I'm really frustrated with not knowing anything. I've just heard from my stepsister (after I texted her yet again to check stepdad's health) that the care home might not be able to hold his place due to him being in hospital for the past three weeks. I've tried to get a freedom of information request about the panel and what type it is, how often it meets etc but that got me nowhere. I'm just really worried someone will force my stepdad back here. I cannot cope mentally or physically with him returning. I've just had the one year anniverary of my mum's death and not have time to mourn her because of all the drama with my stepdad, and I've got my own health issues. I'm also dealing with a potentially nasty and contentious probate/will process that is still dragging out and probably will continue to do so.
I wondered if anyone had any information on how I could get some info about the panel. I'm not 100% sure my step siblings are telling me everything, and the social worker is even worse and basically refuses to communicate with me. All I hear is the panel haven't made a decision and apparently my stepdad keeps needing financial re-asssessments. I don't know if that's true. I don't understand what is holding everything up and what this panel do. Mum's just seemed more straightforward and there were a lot of people involved in her case (due to sectioning). Could anyone give me some info on what this panel might be? From what I understand my stepdad pays part (all his pensions), his children pay part and the council pay part. Could anyone advise about where I could get some info?
I'm still worried they'll try to force my stepdad back here if he looses his care placement as apparently he can only go in certain care homes that the council are willing to fund and this is the only one who've accepted him. What happens if he looses his placement while still in hospital - it sounds like he's mostly better so why he's not back at the care home I'm not sure. It's so difficult to get any damn infomation! I just would like peace of mind. Can anyone recommend how I can find out about this 'panel' etc?
