Thanks Celia and Red xxxx
Been a fairly long morning, but she has gone - not happily, but I honestly don't think that there is anything that I could have said or done differently that would have changed that Whilst I was getting Mil up, still with her being very 'off' with me, she commented on me coughing and sniffling and said I should go to the Doc's - before she ended up ill too!. I ran with that comment and explained that I'd been, and that the GP had said I was to rest and take things easy, and because I was worried that it meant that I wouldn't be able to 'take care' of her the way she 'deserves' and because we were worried about her catching the 'flu', that instead, OH and I had arranged a little break for her, at DC (which is where she will be staying, rather than the usual respite home) so that she could realx and that I could get well without worrying about her getting poorly too. Her initial response was that I could just 'cancel it' - she couldn't afford it (I told her we would pay!) and anyway - HER husband would look after her. I didn't argue with the husband bit, just told her that OH was working for the next few days and couldn't look after her. She told me she could look after herself - I said that I knew that, but that the biggest worry was her getting poorly too.
She wasn't happy but didn't seem to know what to say in response. When she came down, she tried telling OH that she couldn't afford to go, but he told her again that we would pay. She then announced that OK, she would go - but not till Wednesday. OH told her it had been sorted for today. we kept at it from the point of it all being about keeping her healthy and well, about it all being for her benefit which seemed to stop her being able to really kick off.
After OH left, I had 'coat loop' and her continually insisting that she wouldn't get ill, that she had already had the flu, that she couldn't afford to go, etc, etc - just gritted my teeth and sighed with relief when the mini bus turned up.
Phoned CPN to find out that she is also off today, so I've had to ask for the 'on call' staff to sort out permission for them to give the prn diaz as a regular dose - now stuck waiting by the phone for confirmation that it can be done! Is there some law, some bit of legislation, that states that when it comes to anything demenita related, that absolutely nothing can be organised without a load of hassel and what feels like unecessary palava? Just hoping that they ring and that its sorted soon - then I'll really feel like I can relax.
Signing out now and hopefully, while I'm away, everything goes smoothly for all the bizarrites and the rest of the TPer's.
Take care, everyone xxxx
Been a fairly long morning, but she has gone - not happily, but I honestly don't think that there is anything that I could have said or done differently that would have changed that Whilst I was getting Mil up, still with her being very 'off' with me, she commented on me coughing and sniffling and said I should go to the Doc's - before she ended up ill too!. I ran with that comment and explained that I'd been, and that the GP had said I was to rest and take things easy, and because I was worried that it meant that I wouldn't be able to 'take care' of her the way she 'deserves' and because we were worried about her catching the 'flu', that instead, OH and I had arranged a little break for her, at DC (which is where she will be staying, rather than the usual respite home) so that she could realx and that I could get well without worrying about her getting poorly too. Her initial response was that I could just 'cancel it' - she couldn't afford it (I told her we would pay!) and anyway - HER husband would look after her. I didn't argue with the husband bit, just told her that OH was working for the next few days and couldn't look after her. She told me she could look after herself - I said that I knew that, but that the biggest worry was her getting poorly too.
She wasn't happy but didn't seem to know what to say in response. When she came down, she tried telling OH that she couldn't afford to go, but he told her again that we would pay. She then announced that OK, she would go - but not till Wednesday. OH told her it had been sorted for today. we kept at it from the point of it all being about keeping her healthy and well, about it all being for her benefit which seemed to stop her being able to really kick off.
After OH left, I had 'coat loop' and her continually insisting that she wouldn't get ill, that she had already had the flu, that she couldn't afford to go, etc, etc - just gritted my teeth and sighed with relief when the mini bus turned up.
Phoned CPN to find out that she is also off today, so I've had to ask for the 'on call' staff to sort out permission for them to give the prn diaz as a regular dose - now stuck waiting by the phone for confirmation that it can be done! Is there some law, some bit of legislation, that states that when it comes to anything demenita related, that absolutely nothing can be organised without a load of hassel and what feels like unecessary palava? Just hoping that they ring and that its sorted soon - then I'll really feel like I can relax.
Signing out now and hopefully, while I'm away, everything goes smoothly for all the bizarrites and the rest of the TPer's.
Take care, everyone xxxx