It would clearly appear from this thread that you are in urgent need of some clear reflection and thinking time ...... You are entitled to respite, and depending on your husbands savings the children would have to pay!! I think it is more than reasonable given recent events that you need a break.. ( before you have a breakdown ) the children can either source a suitable care home for a week .. or even look after him themselves .. either way it might help them realise your value, and best case scenario, they start to appreciate the care you give to their father! or at least you hit them where it hurts most .... financially!!! Please don't weaken .. that means they win!! Just remember its about care and dignity for your husband, to live his life in the comfort and way he would have wanted to live it .. if he had not been affected by this dreadful disease!! Shame on these greedy heartless children!!