Fred is not so good these days, Scarlett. Don't think he has ever really recovered from his fall and hospital stay at New Year. His carers managed to get him to walk a few paces with one each sIde supporting him but he is usually moved in a wheelchair now. He is very sleepy all the time and have to wake him to help with his food as he no longer knows how to use a knife and fork. He will use a spoon for a while but resorts to using his fingers after a short time, which is Ok with solid foods but not so good with casseroles, rice puddings, etc! On the plus side, I usually get greeted with a smile before he dozes off again but then 10 mins later he can wake and be aggressive and rude. Still, he at least he is with me but it is àll a bit heartbreaking. I just thank God he is cared for so lovingly and well. Hope you and Gloria are as well as can be. xx
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Oh I'm sorry to hear that Fred isn't so good these days. As you say, thank God he is cared for so well. Gloria started her second lot of chemo today. It was delayed, because she was so ill with her other problems.
One of her daughters is so like her, caring, loving and hardworking, and I feel for her so much because she has had yet another blow. As well as working full time, and looking after Gloria, she has been regularly visiting the "man friend" who has bowel cancer.
Gloria divorced over 40 years ago, and her husband remarried, and then separated from his second wife, but stayed on good terms with her. Gloria's daughters, especially this one, Jane, kept regularly in touch. Last weekend Jane had a call from his ex second wife, to say that she couldn't reach him on the phone that day, or the day before, and didn't have a key to his flat, and could Jane pop round when she had the chance, as there might be something wrong with his phone.
Poor Jane. She went straight round, and arrived to find him lying in a chair, dead. Such a tremendous shock, on top of everything else. And unfortunately, other family members are leaving everything up to her to sort out. It seems so unfair that she should have to cope with so much.
I finally saw the surgeon who did my operation, and she said although the margin around the site of the cancer was not as deep as they would like, 1 mm instead of 2, she was satisfied that the cancer had been removed. She'll see me in 3 months, by which time she hopes the lump under my nose will have subsided, but I'm not too bothered if it doesn't - at least the cancer has gone.
Another friend has sent me an e-gift. She is taking me to a spa, the day before my birthday, for a luxury day. How kind, and lovely of her. I had a lovely anniversary last week. My grand-daughter came with me to see the Book of Remembrance, and leave some flowers for John, then we went out for lunch, and when we came home, looked at my wedding album, and read all the anniversary cards John had sent me.
Although I shed a few tears, we had a good laugh, which is just as it should be. Love to everyone. xxx