I've just lost my lovely mum
Hello to everyone and please accept my condolences to everyone who has lost a loved one.
My lovely mum has just passed away in October and I feel so lost ,heartbroken and isolated, and coming on to this site and reading all the comments I feel like we are all kindred spirits and it is reassuring in a way to know I am not the only person feeling this way.
My mum has been a big, important and wonderful part of my life for ever and particularly since my father died suddenly in 1983, we were like two bookends. Over the years my mum became very frail and following a fall she broke her hip and went to live in a Nursing Home near to where I live. I visited my mum four times a week, mum had suffered from vascular dementia, she did not always recognise me as her daughter, sometimes she thought I was her sister, but that was fine, whatever made her happy, I went along with. Over the past couple of years my mum's health gradually got worse in September, she was very chesty and she was eating very little, I tried to encourage and help mum to eat but she was too tired and weak to eat much. The Nursing Home rang me in the early hours of the morning in October to say mum had passed away, it seemed to happen so quickly I could not believe she had passed away, you are never prepared. Mum's passing has left a massive void in my life, I feel like a lost soul now. Unfortunately, my husband and I weren't blessed with children, but he has always been very supportive regarding my mum, but he is struggling to console me now, he just does not know what to say, it is hard for him too.
At the moment I just don't know what to do with myself, I don't seem to have a routine any more and like Digilux 108 said in her excellent posting looking after her mum gave her a sense of purpose, I agree totally, now I feel I've lost my purpose and I just don't know what direction to go in now as my thoughts are all over the place at the moment, I am just hoping and praying that in time my feelings will be less raw and that I will be able to find something to help fill the void in my life.
Take care everyone and thank you for reading the post.
Hello to everyone and please accept my condolences to everyone who has lost a loved one.
My lovely mum has just passed away in October and I feel so lost ,heartbroken and isolated, and coming on to this site and reading all the comments I feel like we are all kindred spirits and it is reassuring in a way to know I am not the only person feeling this way.
My mum has been a big, important and wonderful part of my life for ever and particularly since my father died suddenly in 1983, we were like two bookends. Over the years my mum became very frail and following a fall she broke her hip and went to live in a Nursing Home near to where I live. I visited my mum four times a week, mum had suffered from vascular dementia, she did not always recognise me as her daughter, sometimes she thought I was her sister, but that was fine, whatever made her happy, I went along with. Over the past couple of years my mum's health gradually got worse in September, she was very chesty and she was eating very little, I tried to encourage and help mum to eat but she was too tired and weak to eat much. The Nursing Home rang me in the early hours of the morning in October to say mum had passed away, it seemed to happen so quickly I could not believe she had passed away, you are never prepared. Mum's passing has left a massive void in my life, I feel like a lost soul now. Unfortunately, my husband and I weren't blessed with children, but he has always been very supportive regarding my mum, but he is struggling to console me now, he just does not know what to say, it is hard for him too.
At the moment I just don't know what to do with myself, I don't seem to have a routine any more and like Digilux 108 said in her excellent posting looking after her mum gave her a sense of purpose, I agree totally, now I feel I've lost my purpose and I just don't know what direction to go in now as my thoughts are all over the place at the moment, I am just hoping and praying that in time my feelings will be less raw and that I will be able to find something to help fill the void in my life.
Take care everyone and thank you for reading the post.