Hello.
Many thanks for adding me to the forum.
A crisis....for at least four years I have been aware that my mother has been on the slippery slope of a dementia related illness but like many of us in today’s society I moved away from home to forge a life and raise a family of my own.
My heroic father has been stoically caring for my mother during this period with no assistance from the medical or social service professions. We did attempt to have mum diagnosed but she vehemently resisted although I did not bear witness to the aftermath, Dad said it was brutal and heart breaking to see her so scared and angry. He vowed he would never place her under such stress again!
We have been burying our heads in the sand in order to not rock the boat, however my Dad has unfortunately had a heart attack and awaits surgery....we have reached a most definite point of crisis! My sister and I have mobilised the four hour journey back to our hometown to care for both....it is proving to be very tough as mum drops in and out of lucidity. This evening she was really struggling to place the pair of us and she talks often about ‘them in the kitchen’ and how she wants to go home. She seems to have regressed to late teen, early adulthood but then ping the light comes back on and she’s momentarily back with us. Truly is a rollercoaster.
Where do we turn from here? How do we manage this crisis? What happens when our dad is discharged from hospital to recovery from a heart bypass.
My family needs me here but my kids, wife and work will need me at home too.
Thank you
Many thanks for adding me to the forum.
A crisis....for at least four years I have been aware that my mother has been on the slippery slope of a dementia related illness but like many of us in today’s society I moved away from home to forge a life and raise a family of my own.
My heroic father has been stoically caring for my mother during this period with no assistance from the medical or social service professions. We did attempt to have mum diagnosed but she vehemently resisted although I did not bear witness to the aftermath, Dad said it was brutal and heart breaking to see her so scared and angry. He vowed he would never place her under such stress again!
We have been burying our heads in the sand in order to not rock the boat, however my Dad has unfortunately had a heart attack and awaits surgery....we have reached a most definite point of crisis! My sister and I have mobilised the four hour journey back to our hometown to care for both....it is proving to be very tough as mum drops in and out of lucidity. This evening she was really struggling to place the pair of us and she talks often about ‘them in the kitchen’ and how she wants to go home. She seems to have regressed to late teen, early adulthood but then ping the light comes back on and she’s momentarily back with us. Truly is a rollercoaster.
Where do we turn from here? How do we manage this crisis? What happens when our dad is discharged from hospital to recovery from a heart bypass.
My family needs me here but my kids, wife and work will need me at home too.
Thank you