Karjo, I won't repost your response, but please allow me to tell you, you've done everyone a big fat favour in these lists of reminders. This thread belongs to Dave so I won't say more, just that I appreciate what you've said.
Thank you so much for your kind comments. i have lost a lot of confidence in the last few years about what is wrong and what is right as I am sure we all have. I was so concerned about this situation however I wanted to post though rarely do. I suppose this is because once things are in writing on here they are here forever, no back peddling. but sometimes we need to stick our heads over the parapet if we can maybe help someone. just hope I do.