Morning all,
Our weather turned cold and wet on Wednesday too, Slugsta - but yesterday back to sunshine and it was warmer again - also got sunny and warm forcast for today, which, as I am with one of my groups on a sponsored walk, is a big relief!
Glad your girl has got the results she wanted so far, JM - and very glad that the stress levels stayed low (for her sake and yours!).
Birthday girl was all sunshine and light yesterday morning (YAY!). She headed off for work (and her expected ducking) in high spirits, and we didn't see her again until nearly 10 last night when she returned with 2 mates, who were sleeping over. OH and I retired to bed shortly afterwards (we had both worked long days yesterday, and had decided to leave her and her mates in peace anyway) with dire warnings to keep the noise down (which were ignored - I ended up sending her a text telling her to turn the music down!) and this morning I have got up to the front room littered with glasses, cans, shoes and bags. Something was spilt on the floor - found tea towels, of all things, that had been used to mop it up, and a decidely sticky patch on the floor when I walked into the room. Not a happy bunny here, at all!
I had work 'things' to attend late yesterday afternoon and early evening, so I took an hour or so to go visit Mil around 1.30 yesterday. Going in, I asked a member of staff how she was and was told 'fine'. Got in there to find her sat on a chair, with a staff member beside her, trying to calm her down. The writhing, clenching fists, gutteral yelling - all going on. I asked would it be better if I left, but the staff said that it maybe I might be able to calm her. She had been up and banging on doors and windows before lunch, and was heading that way again - perhaps, the staff said, it might break the mood if I stayed for a short visit? (and, btw, God only knows what the first staff meant when they told me she was 'fine'!) Her cushions were on the floor by where she was sitting - the staff said she had tried to hit and kick him when he had attempted to put them into place - so she was hanging off the seat again. No nonsense, the first thing I did was very briskly get the wedge at least behind her and get her sitting more upright - and she let me, so I guess that was something. She had had lunch before I arrived, and the staff had managed to get the apron off her but she had grabbed it and had it held tightly, and was flapping it round, trying to sort of 'whip' him with it. It was covered in food and gravy, bits flying off everywhere, and not in a mind to be swiped with it, I tried to take it off her. Big mistake - she screamed like a banshee, started swiping at me with the apron, and very deliberately kicked out and then stamped on my foot. So, I backed off and sat to the side of her. She actually did seem to calm a bit after a few minutes. She wanted to hold my hands (and let me take the apron so she could do so) and kept pulling me into her for her to kiss me. But all the while, the inarticulate noises. She was trying really hard to tell me something but all she could do was make these awful sounds. You could see and hear from her tone just how frustrated she was at me not being able to understand her, though it was sad rather than angry frustration. Over and over she tried to say what she wanted, but I honestly couldn't make out what it was, and it was clear that my 'Oh dears', 'really's' and 'Don't worries' were failing miserably as a convincing response. Horrible - I always said I couldn't imagine how Mil would ever cope if she lost the ability to talk. Worst thing was she seemd to be aware that she wasn't making sense, but kept on trying and trying, and it was just pitiful and so sad. I tried playing her some of her favourite songs on my phone - she tried to sing along to the odd line, but just the same garbled sounds, so that didn't last long. Then - out of the blue - she suddenly told me 'I love you!'. You could have knocked me down with a feather. How she managed to get that out, I really don't know. She had tears in her eyes when she said it - which nearly brought me to tears. I told her I loved her too, and got quite a few hugs and her repeating it 3 or 4 times, before she lapsed back into the garble. I stayed about 35 - 40 mins before I had to go. Telling Mil I was going to work and I'd 'be back later', I tried to disintangle my hand from hers. Not a chance she was letting me go, Frantic babbling, gripping and gouging at me, it took quite a few minutes before I could get free and head for the door. And she was up on her feet and after me with a speed that was almost unbelievable. The same staff who had been trying to comfort and calm her when I arrived intercepted her, and all of a sudden, she was speaking (shouting!) very clearly, swearing at him, telling him where to go, and smacking and clawing at his face. And all I could do was walk away, because I had to get back to work.
The senior nurse manager (or whatever she is - not at all sure of her actual title) spoke to me briefly on the way out. She said that they had had about 6 or 7 days where they felt that the med changes were actually bringing her some relief, that although the agitation hadn't gone it was less intense and the periods it lasted for had been shorter. However, she now thinks that Mil may have a UTI - despite the maintenance AB's, which she said may now have just stopped working for Mil - as her behaviour had been really bad for the previous 24 hours, so the GP had been called. Though as Mil is being non-compliant about providing a sample, they can't be sure. I suggested test strips that could be used for the pull ups, but she explained they need a proper sample to test and identify the correct AB's for whatever infection it is (if it is an infection).
All the usual feelings followed. Sad and angry that she continues to suffer like this. Frustrated that no one can find something that works to relieve her misery. Useless, because I can't do anything to help. Wishing - and guenuinely, it is for her sake - that she could just pass away in her sleep, painlessly and quietly, and be out of this situation. I keep thinking it can't get any worse for her, but it does and its so cruel.
I'm going to try and get the house straight now, before getting ready for work. I'm not in the mood to tackle Madam about the mess - that can wait till tomorrow, when I'll hopefully be able to stay calm with her! Son won't be arriving today as planned, as my wee Granddog is poorly, and has an appointment at the vets - he has been in and out of the vets for several weeks now, a kidney problem has been diagnosed, but is complicated by recurrent stomach upsets that they can't find a reason for. He is having some tests today, and they will have to see how he is when he is discharged this evening before deciding if they are able to finally come tomorrow. Both son and his GF dote on Patch, but this was my fear when they decided to adopt an older rescue dog (Patch is nearly 12), that ill health could strike and they may not have him long
Love to all - hope you are all OK xxxxx
Our weather turned cold and wet on Wednesday too, Slugsta - but yesterday back to sunshine and it was warmer again - also got sunny and warm forcast for today, which, as I am with one of my groups on a sponsored walk, is a big relief!
Glad your girl has got the results she wanted so far, JM - and very glad that the stress levels stayed low (for her sake and yours!).
Birthday girl was all sunshine and light yesterday morning (YAY!). She headed off for work (and her expected ducking) in high spirits, and we didn't see her again until nearly 10 last night when she returned with 2 mates, who were sleeping over. OH and I retired to bed shortly afterwards (we had both worked long days yesterday, and had decided to leave her and her mates in peace anyway) with dire warnings to keep the noise down (which were ignored - I ended up sending her a text telling her to turn the music down!) and this morning I have got up to the front room littered with glasses, cans, shoes and bags. Something was spilt on the floor - found tea towels, of all things, that had been used to mop it up, and a decidely sticky patch on the floor when I walked into the room. Not a happy bunny here, at all!
I had work 'things' to attend late yesterday afternoon and early evening, so I took an hour or so to go visit Mil around 1.30 yesterday. Going in, I asked a member of staff how she was and was told 'fine'. Got in there to find her sat on a chair, with a staff member beside her, trying to calm her down. The writhing, clenching fists, gutteral yelling - all going on. I asked would it be better if I left, but the staff said that it maybe I might be able to calm her. She had been up and banging on doors and windows before lunch, and was heading that way again - perhaps, the staff said, it might break the mood if I stayed for a short visit? (and, btw, God only knows what the first staff meant when they told me she was 'fine'!) Her cushions were on the floor by where she was sitting - the staff said she had tried to hit and kick him when he had attempted to put them into place - so she was hanging off the seat again. No nonsense, the first thing I did was very briskly get the wedge at least behind her and get her sitting more upright - and she let me, so I guess that was something. She had had lunch before I arrived, and the staff had managed to get the apron off her but she had grabbed it and had it held tightly, and was flapping it round, trying to sort of 'whip' him with it. It was covered in food and gravy, bits flying off everywhere, and not in a mind to be swiped with it, I tried to take it off her. Big mistake - she screamed like a banshee, started swiping at me with the apron, and very deliberately kicked out and then stamped on my foot. So, I backed off and sat to the side of her. She actually did seem to calm a bit after a few minutes. She wanted to hold my hands (and let me take the apron so she could do so) and kept pulling me into her for her to kiss me. But all the while, the inarticulate noises. She was trying really hard to tell me something but all she could do was make these awful sounds. You could see and hear from her tone just how frustrated she was at me not being able to understand her, though it was sad rather than angry frustration. Over and over she tried to say what she wanted, but I honestly couldn't make out what it was, and it was clear that my 'Oh dears', 'really's' and 'Don't worries' were failing miserably as a convincing response. Horrible - I always said I couldn't imagine how Mil would ever cope if she lost the ability to talk. Worst thing was she seemd to be aware that she wasn't making sense, but kept on trying and trying, and it was just pitiful and so sad. I tried playing her some of her favourite songs on my phone - she tried to sing along to the odd line, but just the same garbled sounds, so that didn't last long. Then - out of the blue - she suddenly told me 'I love you!'. You could have knocked me down with a feather. How she managed to get that out, I really don't know. She had tears in her eyes when she said it - which nearly brought me to tears. I told her I loved her too, and got quite a few hugs and her repeating it 3 or 4 times, before she lapsed back into the garble. I stayed about 35 - 40 mins before I had to go. Telling Mil I was going to work and I'd 'be back later', I tried to disintangle my hand from hers. Not a chance she was letting me go, Frantic babbling, gripping and gouging at me, it took quite a few minutes before I could get free and head for the door. And she was up on her feet and after me with a speed that was almost unbelievable. The same staff who had been trying to comfort and calm her when I arrived intercepted her, and all of a sudden, she was speaking (shouting!) very clearly, swearing at him, telling him where to go, and smacking and clawing at his face. And all I could do was walk away, because I had to get back to work.
The senior nurse manager (or whatever she is - not at all sure of her actual title) spoke to me briefly on the way out. She said that they had had about 6 or 7 days where they felt that the med changes were actually bringing her some relief, that although the agitation hadn't gone it was less intense and the periods it lasted for had been shorter. However, she now thinks that Mil may have a UTI - despite the maintenance AB's, which she said may now have just stopped working for Mil - as her behaviour had been really bad for the previous 24 hours, so the GP had been called. Though as Mil is being non-compliant about providing a sample, they can't be sure. I suggested test strips that could be used for the pull ups, but she explained they need a proper sample to test and identify the correct AB's for whatever infection it is (if it is an infection).
All the usual feelings followed. Sad and angry that she continues to suffer like this. Frustrated that no one can find something that works to relieve her misery. Useless, because I can't do anything to help. Wishing - and guenuinely, it is for her sake - that she could just pass away in her sleep, painlessly and quietly, and be out of this situation. I keep thinking it can't get any worse for her, but it does and its so cruel.
I'm going to try and get the house straight now, before getting ready for work. I'm not in the mood to tackle Madam about the mess - that can wait till tomorrow, when I'll hopefully be able to stay calm with her! Son won't be arriving today as planned, as my wee Granddog is poorly, and has an appointment at the vets - he has been in and out of the vets for several weeks now, a kidney problem has been diagnosed, but is complicated by recurrent stomach upsets that they can't find a reason for. He is having some tests today, and they will have to see how he is when he is discharged this evening before deciding if they are able to finally come tomorrow. Both son and his GF dote on Patch, but this was my fear when they decided to adopt an older rescue dog (Patch is nearly 12), that ill health could strike and they may not have him long
Love to all - hope you are all OK xxxxx