Morning all,
Yay - glad you have found somewhere, Slugsta, even if it is a tad more expensive, if its the right place for you, it will be worth it
Will keep everything crossed for a smooth and stress free move for you, your OH - and the cats
xxxx
Ouch JM - if not completely better, hope you are in a lot less pain today xxx
Talking of pain - have any of you guys who suffer from hip/back/knee pain heard of, or tried, ActiPatch? OH had read some really good reviews about it, so we sent for the weeks' trial pack . . . its been two days, and the pain in my hip is definitely much better - to the extent that yesterday I only took two painkillers (and they were for my back, not because of my hip!). Its an odd looking thing, a loop of wire with a small, flat power pack, that you stick over the painful area with plasters/tape - and you just leave it on (apart from when you're bathing, of course
). I'm going to try and find out if its possible to use two of the patches at one time, so I can try one on the most painful area of my back as well as on my hip . Worth looking into, if you suffer from chronic pain xxxx
Didn't visit Mil yesterday, as dau had her friends round for the pumpkin carving - not just a total of 8 typicallly loud teens, a but 8 'all singing, all dancing', typically loud teens
They really enjoyed themselves, and the end results were two nicely carved pumpkins . . . and two that were only fit for the bin
Daughter had saved pocket money to buy snacks, and I waded in with a cake, sausage rolls, pizza, garlic bread and a carved 'Melon Brain' (dead easy to make, but it so impressed the girls, lol!), so everyone was well fed, and to be fair to dau, she got stuck in to cleaning up when they were gone. Its the first time in a long time that she has had a whole bunch of friends round - it was impossible to do when Mil lived here - I couldn't help thinking that it was just really nice for her to be able to do something so normal and fun.
Today, I'm going to finish sorting things to take to the home for Mil, and once I've phoned to check that there have been no more issues and checked the liklihood of her being allowed to leave the ward on either Tues or Wednesday, OH and I are going to go and try and make her room cosy for her. Its actually quite difficult to select knick-knacks and bits that will be suitable
Her heavy brasses are out - in case she throws them. There are porceline figures, 2 large ones. that were a gift to her when her Mum in law passed away - on the one hand, Mil always loved them - on the other, I don't know if they have any value and if they were thrown, I would imagine that if they hit anyone they would do some damage. At the moment they are in the 'not going' pile - but I'm swithering, because I know how much Mil loved them. I've selected several photographs, and bought light plastic frames to replace the heavy wooden ones that they were in - hoping that will make them less prone to damage and less likely to injure if thrown, and I've scanned the actual photographs so they can be replaced if needed. The vases, the glass dressing table set, her collection of decorative plates, several quite heavy jewellery boxes . . . none would be a good idea to take, I don't think
I've filled one small, light jewellery box with some costume jewellery and some of Mil's rosary beads and have a couple of small 'seaside souvenir' type bits she used to keep on display. And there are a few small teddies/soft toys. But it seems so little to represent her life. We have said that once we see the decor of the room she is in (it won't be the first one we looked at, I don't think) we will go and buy a throw and some matching cushions. We have - at the moment - decided against a TV in her room. On the pro side for her having one, is the fact that if we also sent a DVD player, then sometimes old musicals, Disney Films, Mrs Browns Boys or box sets of old comedy's can keep her occupied and calm - but only sometimes. On the 'con' side, here, she constantly played with the remote, changing channels and settings and wanted it 'fixing' straight way - and this could happen several times an hour, as could her losing the remote. She could also inadvertantly flick to something that would fuel a bad delusion and cause her upset. We had several instances of her turning the TV on in the middle of the night, full blast, and waking us all. And - I don't know if I've mentioned this - a trick she developed several years ago - taking the back off a remote control, and peeling the plastic protective cover off the batteries, before putting them back. Apparently a big fire risk. We talked about asking the home to take charge of the remote, so the staff could just put the TV on for her when she wanted - but that's what we did here and we had several bad strops when she wanted us to hand over the remote. So, for the moment, no TV - but we'll see how it goes and review based on what the staff want to try.
Either before or after dropping her things off, we'll visit Mil and see how she is. OH has (thank goodness) booked next week as a holiday - sheer chance, being pressured to sort out leave, he just picked a random week, and now it looks like its turned out to be at just the right time. I am going to try and stick to Friday as my day off next week, I don't want to have to keep chopping and changing my working days as its making planning meetings and so on difficult, and hopefully, with OH being off, I'll be able to stick to that. we now just have to hope that its 3rd time lucky, and we can get her moved and settled.
Hope you all have a good day. Spamar, I have been thinking of you - I hope you are OK xxxxxxx