Well trying to catch up, and didn't have time to comment yesterday, no time to read this morning, still school hols here.
Ann - hugs - you have cared so tirelessly for her. The system has let you down big style. I'm wondering if he could see underlying agitation and realised she wasn't suitable for the bed he had booked or did he tell you before he arrived. Like others my jaw dropped as I read some of this, I want to cry for you.
As you are self funding( I suspect not but trying to offer something positive) is it worth looking at other dementia/EMI homes further away which may be able to take her, I know you'd have journey to visit her, but if say they were near the zoo than may balance out, I know my friend was told of one in Upton when trying to place her MIL (she got the local one she wanted near me), it sound like you need emergency respite and clearly you wouldn't want her to go back to the home she was in. I realise taking her out of area may cause issues with hospital as they then may try and say she is no longer in their area.
Whilst vastly different, I do know what you and Grace mean about not complaining about things as it may do more harm than good. There were issues with some boys behaviour when dau was first at high school and we later found out lots of other parents complained when we kept quiet.
I have made a formal complaint about the police officer who interviewed me after the incident I had the other day, as I don't want him spouting the same nonsense if he ever goes to see other cyclists about incidents. Felt rather stressed about it all and a few sleepless night, the inspector it has been allocated to contacted me last night and was appalled at what he said so hopefully some joy, I had to list on the form the outcomes I wanted and one of them I listed was ensuring police are suitably trained to deal with cyclists, which she thought was a valid point considering. Didn't feel up to saying on here I had complained until it had progressed a bit.
Ann - hugs - you have cared so tirelessly for her. The system has let you down big style. I'm wondering if he could see underlying agitation and realised she wasn't suitable for the bed he had booked or did he tell you before he arrived. Like others my jaw dropped as I read some of this, I want to cry for you.
As you are self funding( I suspect not but trying to offer something positive) is it worth looking at other dementia/EMI homes further away which may be able to take her, I know you'd have journey to visit her, but if say they were near the zoo than may balance out, I know my friend was told of one in Upton when trying to place her MIL (she got the local one she wanted near me), it sound like you need emergency respite and clearly you wouldn't want her to go back to the home she was in. I realise taking her out of area may cause issues with hospital as they then may try and say she is no longer in their area.
Whilst vastly different, I do know what you and Grace mean about not complaining about things as it may do more harm than good. There were issues with some boys behaviour when dau was first at high school and we later found out lots of other parents complained when we kept quiet.
I have made a formal complaint about the police officer who interviewed me after the incident I had the other day, as I don't want him spouting the same nonsense if he ever goes to see other cyclists about incidents. Felt rather stressed about it all and a few sleepless night, the inspector it has been allocated to contacted me last night and was appalled at what he said so hopefully some joy, I had to list on the form the outcomes I wanted and one of them I listed was ensuring police are suitably trained to deal with cyclists, which she thought was a valid point considering. Didn't feel up to saying on here I had complained until it had progressed a bit.