Gigi,
Please correct me if I’m wrong here – and I know that someone else will, if you can’t – a CPN is not employed by the Local Authority, but by the NHS/PCT.
A CPN may be part of the MDT, but s/he should refer you to the appropriate person. Who may be your SW.
A CPN is a nurse, and a nurse cannot assess the ‘eligibility criteria’ for a care home placement. Regardless of the funding situation. And tell the CPN that Eric may soon be ‘living on his own’, because you may just jump over the gate.
Remind CPN that there are many people placed in care homes who are not violent, not likely to wander, and not likely to give the CPN a black-eye, which Eric’s ‘main support mechanism’ may feel the need to do soon. With lots of assistance from ‘others’.
Of course, anyone self-funding can move into a care home tomorrow, if they wish to do so. And the SS would not even need to know about it. Anyone who is not self-funding has their case put together by SS/SW and it goes to the LA panel – who get out their rubber stamp, and then the person is put on the local waiting list. Nothing to do with a CPN – well, not where I live in England anyway.
If Eric (without your care) would be entitled to a full care package at home, then invite the CPN to put that package in place. But then the CPN will tell you that she can’t do that because it’s outside her responsibilities.
And ask the CPN/SW to show you where it is written in stone that you are required to be the "substitute care-package", plied with anti-depressants, in order to enable you to carry out the requirements of the CPN!!
And, a final straw, tell the CPN that you are allergic to each and every anti-depressant on the books. If you weren’t before, you are now.
I just hope your GP has a more open mind, and more awareness of the responsibilities.