I am just picturing your face in the picture with boobie woman,
Pam, that was so funny...
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, thanks for reminding me.
I never see myself as a vibrant "young" woman these days, Helen. But thankyou for planting the image in my brain...
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And for reminding me to keep reaching out.
Waffling on, I went to collect my prescription today..and asked for the change in £2 coins..
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This led to a wonderful conversation about Beach Huts and favourite sea-side places with customers and staff alike..it was like a real life TP conversation..
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In fact it was "normal" life.
There's more...I won't disclose my source of information on TP.
There is provision to ask for a re-assessment of Eric's Mental Capacity, and to appeal against the SW's decision on this. ]
Before I do that I'm going to do an information gathering exercise..and am insisting that the sitters and carers document everything. The sitter today left with a headache..apart from watching interminable TV she was subjected to constant questioning for the best part of 3 hours. And she was glad to leave..(she has promised to come back next week..
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For myself. I've decided to become Eric's carer in my mind.
(OK..I know I'm his wife...
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) But I can cope better if I ditch the wife thing and see myself as his carer. Which is realistically how he sees me.
And as his carer I'm working to rule..
It's a simple mind shift. Of course I'll continue to "care" for Eric...but in order to do it I've disengaged myself from the emotional entanglement, which was only on my part anyway..and it was getting in the way because I was allowing it to.
Meanwhile I'll explore the options, wait for the appointments for the scans to come through, and live and learn through this.
If I can turn this into a positive experience then I will.
Love xx