i expect more than we realise as its on quite often on programs showing blunders and "its alright on the night" type onesI wonder at what age young people don’t know about this??? I shall ask some of the young carers at the home 🤣🤣
they are good. i think sometimes it gets a bit pressurized in the home and sometimes it boils over. hopefully they are both fine and the staff dealt with it swiftly.I chatted to a non carer colleague/ friend today - she asked about Christmas - I wasn’t sure quite how to answer….she’s had her own troubles in life and has made Christmas into a huge comfort hit I think…..bless her, she has faithfully kept extending the hand of friendship so although not a natural friendship I’ve appreciated that she hasn’t dropped me.
Funnily enough @Rachael03 mum has been doing her own painting decorations today. I was a bit jealous, my work client cancelled so I had a dull afternoon at the computer …..doing the waste of time paperwork that the on'y advantage in doing is to keep management happy 🤔🤔
We finally finished her Christmas cards. The past 2 years I’ve had less enthusiasm but she can just about write her name so I figured lets do them whilst she can….the sticker cards have been so easy and fun too.
The home here is definitely a hard core one. Apparently a full on fight between 2 lady residents this afternoon 😱😱 Too much Christmas party stimulation me thinks. Carers clearly affected but not horrified ….
Sounds similar to the one mum was in. There were two ladies there that often seemed to rub each other up the wrong way so that there would be "zimmer frames at noon"....The home here is definitely a hard core one. Apparently a full on fight between 2 lady residents this afternoon 😱😱 Too much Christmas party stimulation me thinks. Carers clearly affected but not horrified ….
Ah @Chizz That is a good metaphor to describe the rollercoaster of full time carer strain to someone (like me) who isn't in that boat!Hi @Rachael03
You said " It still shocks me how one day can raise so many feelings to the surface but it does."
If you are a full time carer there are v often many more than fours seasons in a day!
happy birthday to your mum.So we had a successful day yesterday for mum’s 84th birthday 🥳 The home made a fuss and her floor had a lovely cake and she had balloons etc. I took in a salmon dinner in my slow cooker and we relaxed with my sister in the evening.
it made me reflect on the past few years - her last ’normal’ birthday was 2019 when oblivious to covid developing we had a lovely family meal in a Thai restaurant. Mum at this stage having to leave notes everywhere but we assumed that was normal…
2020 - I escaped from Tier 4 just in time to join mum and dad in tier 2 for an afternoon tea in a deserted hotel. dad bless him was very confused why he wasn’t allowed a beer when he wasn’t havjng ‘substantial meals’…..work questioned me as to my travel date 😡😡 whilst all the time Boris was partying! Mum not able to learn anything new and increasingly struggling with complex tasks…but we were all preoccupied with keeping dad safe from covid…
2021 - I brought mum out of her respite stay a few days early to escape omicron…..we all new a diagnosis was on its way…..but lovely to have her home with me encamped as carer
2022- mum started her birthday with a lapse in consciousness 😢😢 we now know this was her adrenal Insuffeciency….glad I was able to keep her out of hospital and we enjoyed an afternoon tea at home later in the day…..mum beginning to struggle with conversation…
And now…..
a Happy Birthday to mum who makes the most of her difficult situation….which makes caring so much easier…
In my humble opinion @sdmhred you should try to do whatever you can + mum as long as you can - sorry I know there is no "should" and it's rude of me to even suggest what anybody else might consider. SorryFunny old day today. my sil sent A message re Christmas food. Nothing wrong with it at all, but set me off and I had a small cry…..overdue I think. Realised I have been sticking my head in the sand about Christmas. I don’t think I want to bother with it this year. I am quite happy to sit and have a pasta bake or something with mum 🙈🙈🤣🤣 I Have absolutely no energy today or desire to spend ages helping to prepare a Christmas dinner etc etc….my brother has hired an Airbnb for us to stay in….the same last year which worked out ok but Im just not up for it…..next year maybe I will take off somewhere…….