1. Expert Q&A: Benefits - Weds 23 October, 3-4pm

    Our next expert Q&A will be on the topic of benefits. It will be hosted by Lauren from our Knowledge Services team. She'll be answering your questions on Wednesday 23 October between 3-4pm.

    You can either post your question >here< or email them to us at talkingpoint@alzheimers.org.uk and we'll be happy to ask them on your behalf.

  1. DesperateofDevon

    DesperateofDevon Registered User

    Jul 7, 2019
    1,159
    Just read back my post!

    Who is that calmer person- mirror says it’s me but ..... really !
    Am I finally moving forward?
    Nah !
    Don’t be stupid ... me tells myself ... otherwise when the next load of poop drops you will be broken by it again! Just keep a little bit of myself back for me... that little voice tells me!
     
  2. TNJJ

    TNJJ Registered User

    May 7, 2019
    456
    Dad made me laugh yesterday.He knew I was going on holiday so he said”Tomorrow we can do the weeds”(he has a gardener that just mows the lawn)”No chance I said.I am not here.”He said”Huh.I thought you would be as you are not on hols until Monday “.I reminded him that I do not work on Fridays unless he has a hospital appointment.That went down like a lead balloon.But,you have to be firm with him otherwise he would get me in every day of the week.So he has the carers every day for 10days..I hope you get somewhere.Fingers crossed
     
  3. DesperateofDevon

    DesperateofDevon Registered User

    Jul 7, 2019
    1,159
    I’m in bed today! Flat on my back with exhaustion- no point banging on about it as it is what it is!
    I’ve told SS, carers, Mums GP etc time & time again - maybe one day someone will believe the impact this has on carers
     
  4. Starting on a journey

    Starting on a journey Registered User

    Jul 9, 2019
    37
     
  5. Starting on a journey

    Starting on a journey Registered User

    Jul 9, 2019
    37
    Bless you, I know how you feel.
    Time to let the professionals take over?
    I am so sorry it is easy to give advice but do hard to take it....we can all just manage a bit longer and it's not that bad....in your case it is, report it to anyone and everyone and then rest and rest and rest. Hospital appointment? Get the hospital to sort out transport cos you aren't doing it, if mum is difficult she can be difficult to them. It's ok to say I can't do anymore, honestly....
     
  6. DesperateofDevon

    DesperateofDevon Registered User

    Jul 7, 2019
    1,159
    But sadly Mum not capable of sorting out transport & very wobbly, plus forgetful!
    I know I should step away but OH said no & booked day off work! I do try, but I’m all she’s got! & vice versa!
    I try & treat people the way I would like to be treated - karma & all that.
    But It’s her birthday the following day

    Thank you for your replies & support it really does help me feel I’m not alone in this.
    X
     
  7. DesperateofDevon

    DesperateofDevon Registered User

    Jul 7, 2019
    1,159
    So Mums opticians have just rung & left a message, another pair of glasses I dropped off to be repaired unrepairable!
    Mum fiddles with them & has bent the whole frame outta shape.
    Respect
    Good job it’s readers & easily replaced with another spare pair!!!!
    Think she’s their best customer!!!!
     
  8. TNJJ

    TNJJ Registered User

    May 7, 2019
    456
    You can get opticians to come to you and fit them.Dad has just got a new pair
     
  9. TNJJ

    TNJJ Registered User

    May 7, 2019
    456
    Have you tried TAPS?
     
  10. Latitude

    Latitude Registered User

    Jul 12, 2019
    30
    AgeUK can provide home help carers who will do shopping and accompany clients to hospital. Even take them there and relay information back to you. I've found them indispensable for all the support they can offer.
     
  11. DesperateofDevon

    DesperateofDevon Registered User

    Jul 7, 2019
    1,159
    Thank you I will be looking into this
    X
     
  12. DesperateofDevon

    DesperateofDevon Registered User

    Jul 7, 2019
    1,159
    Mum wouldn’t use them but I will try again.
     
  13. DesperateofDevon

    DesperateofDevon Registered User

    Jul 7, 2019
    1,159
    Which opticians?
     
  14. Lindy50

    Lindy50 Registered User

    Dec 11, 2013
    5,302
    Cotswolds
    specsavers I think
     
  15. TNJJ

    TNJJ Registered User

    May 7, 2019
    456
    Yes spec savers and the Outside Clinic.They will come to you:)
     
  16. DesperateofDevon

    DesperateofDevon Registered User

    Jul 7, 2019
    1,159
    Thank you
    Wonder if they come out for hearing aids too???
     
  17. TNJJ

    TNJJ Registered User

    May 7, 2019
    456
    More than likely.I know the Outside Clinic do.Dad had them.
     
  18. DesperateofDevon

    DesperateofDevon Registered User

    Jul 7, 2019
    1,159
    Right, I have a to do list for next Friday with OH being chauffeur before I’m working the weekend. Hope the offers on G&T are good after the Bank Holiday!
     
  19. Lindy50

    Lindy50 Registered User

    Dec 11, 2013
    5,302
    Cotswolds
    They are very good I think - the optician we had was very nice and even adapted the eye test slightly to take account of mums ability or otherwise to follow instructions!
     
  20. campervan21

    campervan21 Registered User

    May 4, 2017
    173
    We had specsavers come out to mum for eye test ,they came and fit new glasses etC, they also came out to the house for her hearing aid test and to sort out new aids for her

    Big help home visit she couldn't go to them
     

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