Hi
@Lauren22, don't forget to do your own power of attorney and think very carefully as to who you want to be your attorneys as if anything happens to you (god forbid) your husband in all likelihood will not be able to act for you. For the same reasons you need to think about who would care for your children if anything happens while they are still young.
If you live in your own home, again look at how the property is owned - there are 2 different ways of joint ownership - one where the other half automatically goes to the other on death and the other where each person can will their half to whomever. You want to be able to will your half to your children if anything happens to you, otherwise the whole value could be taken up in care home fees.
My heart goes out to you, it must be such a difficult time.