Dear Lila, yes, totally agree. Some people are very intolerant of any one with memory problems sadly. But, there but for the grace etc!! We none of us know whats round the corner do we, they might need help themselves one day. It is so hard trying to get the balance right and to enhance a persons independance whilst ensuring their well being isn't it? My own Mum was in need of back up for many years, she thought she had it all under control, but as time went by, the veneer became thinner and thinner till in the end I had to insist she live with me. It caused a lot of aggro from her as she argued she was fine, but once she had started going to the shops etc very late in the night and then having some one from the shop bring her home etc, I knew the time had come. Fate lent a hand because she had a severe chest infection. I fetched her home to ours to "convaless" then I just didn't take her home. I just kept passing it off that we would see about it tomorrow etc. In my humble opinion, this stage, when they are insisting all is OK, desperately fighting to keep their independance etc. Its one of the cruelest stages and the most heart rending and taxing for carers. What ever you do is wrong, do too much, they despise you, do too little, they are at risk, nightmare! Do please keep writing Lila, just talking about it here, even if it doesn't solve anything, it will help you through, I know it has me. Luvanhugs, She. XX