Hi margherita &MIA56, hope u both well. how is both OH s doing. I know what u mean by not contradicting margherita it does mean a quiet life . However I sometimes do & all hell breaks loose. Hope viewing goin ok MIA56 . Well had my son & dil & baby yesterday. OH wasn't up of course when they arrived . So did lunch then heard him go in bathroom so I then made his .only to realise he had gone back to bed. So then when family left late evening he then decides to get up. (Grim isn't it). I really think how much more I can take of this. I know its not all the illness with him as he picks & chooses when he wants to socialise with family . He always did . I just wish I had some sort of a life to look forward too instead of this existence. Well rant over . Hope u all have a peaceful weekend . ...
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Hi all of you!
Beads, same situation as yours.
Sometimes I forget he can't reason well and tell him my opinion, which may be different from his. He considers any different point of view as a personal attack and something done only to prove him wrong.
You have a nice family. Enjoy their loving presence in your life with or without ( better?) your husband. We should learn to be deaf and blind on some occasions
Beads, same situation as yours.
Sometimes I forget he can't reason well and tell him my opinion, which may be different from his. He considers any different point of view as a personal attack and something done only to prove him wrong.
You have a nice family. Enjoy their loving presence in your life with or without ( better?) your husband. We should learn to be deaf and blind on some occasions
Hi margherita, Just read your diary latest post. My OH has mixed dementia vascular/Alzheimer's. When our GP first rang me to tell me the results of his scan she said it was Alzheimers. She then followed it by saying & I think also vascular dementia. When the Consultant came to our home & did memory test , he then said he had mild Alzheimer's. So I said to him that our GP had also said vascular as well. He then said yes well he has both. I think that what your OH has been told is a sub form of vascular dementia. However don't quote me on that as I could be wrong and there are qualified people on here that will know better. I was giving to understand that they can give medication for Alzheimers but not vascular dementia. Does your OH have heart problems?. My OH mild diagnosis I think is wrong I would put him middle. He has had this about 2 & half years before been diagnosed. Also he put on his host mode for him apart from when he started to get annoyed with him . I thought he was gonna throw his pen at him. Hope someone comes along with more information for you.....
Oh it's lovely to have family visit you MIA56 isn't it. Don't know about you but for me the few hours they are here just takes my mind off things. They make you laugh 6 going on 16 definetley. Lovely a new baby to look forward to that's great. Ye I do get sick but even when he's up he doesn't talk when I speak to him he just answers yes or no. He seemed to plateau for awhile . Now I'm beginning to think he is getting worse. Wanting to sleep all the time & no interest in anything or anybody. I don't know we all just go day to day . As we have said no 2 days the same. Ooh more viewings tomorrow hope you get some pleasant people MIA. Have a chilled evening . Get yourself a drink will help you sleep. speak soon. Ttfn.....
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Thanks, Beads, your first hand experience helps me understand.
My husband takes regularly a medicine for heart arrhythmia, which it is under control.
No problems with blood pressure .
He has felt dizzy sometimes for about two years, but nobody has ever looked into it.
His GP does not care much and says it is nothing serious
How does he know?
Hi Margherita, same as OH he is on medication for atrial fibrillation. He also takes warfarin to thin the blood. OH also gets dizzy now & then . I think it's lack of oxygen to the brain. Also he has had mini stroke that he hasn't known anything about which affects brain cells. That has caused him to have vascular dementia.Thanks, Beads, your first hand experience helps me understand.
My husband takes regularly a medicine for heart arrhythmia, which it is under control.
No problems with blood pressure .
He has felt dizzy sometimes for about two years, but nobody has ever looked into it.
His GP does not care much and says it is nothing serious
How does he know?
All this was explained to me by our GP. Sounds as though your OH has similar. Hope this helps . Think I was a doctor. (Not) speak soon Margherita....
It must be so nice having a big family like yours.
I've an only son, who is not married and lives near Milan.
My husband has a son , too.
They're quite indifferent to each other. Luckily we seldom see him, usually when he needs money.
We don't have friends here, they are all in Milan.
Ours is a lonely life
I've an only son, who is not married and lives near Milan.
My husband has a son , too.
They're quite indifferent to each other. Luckily we seldom see him, usually when he needs money.
We don't have friends here, they are all in Milan.
Ours is a lonely life
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OH im so sorry you have such a lonely life margherita. It is such a shame your son lives so far away from you especially now when we all need support & help . Just even a visit & a chat can change our outlook on the day. Hopefully when u go to Milan in October will you see him. Yes I love ❤️ my big family. Keeps me going. Our little chats are nice . We manage to have a good moan & sometimes a laugh. Hope you have a peaceful night margherita, speak soon. ...
I wish we were closer ,too!
Not a soul to speak to here, where I moved three years ago after I retired.
For the first two years it was not so bad because I used to spend a couple af days in Milan every week.
Since my husband was diagnosed Alzheimer's I can't leave him alone at night, so , as my friends say, I am "under house arrest",
Not a soul to speak to here, where I moved three years ago after I retired.
For the first two years it was not so bad because I used to spend a couple af days in Milan every week.
Since my husband was diagnosed Alzheimer's I can't leave him alone at night, so , as my friends say, I am "under house arrest",
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I have some good friends I can chat with on the phone, but only when my husband is sleeping or doing something that keeps him busy . Otherwise, he interrupts my conversations every five minutes asking questions about the most disparate subjects .
Aaw MIA56 I hope you managed to nod off & get a few hours sleep.Awful when u kept awake through partners restlessness. I don't have that problem we have our own rooms. I like to read or be on I pad or watch tv once I've gone to bed. He was always complaining about the lamp been on & getting disturbed so he moved into other bedroom . The way things have turned out I'm glad as he up & down through the night . However I always hear him as I'm a light sleeper .hope OH is less sleepy today. My OH was never up at all yesterday only to go to the bathroom. Kept going up asking him why he wasn't getting up,did he feel ill ?. Was he not hungry ? Only response I got was NO. So what can you do just left him. He has been up for lunch today was talking too him but just yes & no replies as usual. While he was having his lunch I made it my chance to blitz his room & change bed covers. Needless to say he is back up there now TV is blasting. I'm sat here writing this glancing out patio at pouring thinking just another day in paradise. House arrest is a good term for us carers as margherita says . Oh well onwards & upwards as they say. Take care speak soon . Hope viewings are positive.
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Under house arrest is exactly how I am feeling today.Its such a nice day i thought we could take the granddaughter to the play area in the park ,no exertion on my hubbys part. Take the car and a fold up seat for him ,grab a coffee .No ,never liked it not going .I do understand he doesn't feel good but oh the waste of a beautiful day and time with our granddaughter. I know how you feel ,so sorry xx
Hi Caz60, it is a waste of a beautiful day for you, that's how it is with them tho isn't it. Is hubby far through his dementia , does he have difficulty in walking. As u read this page u will see there are quite a few of us that are in the same position. Our lives are on hold because of this disease & I for one am resentful. Nice to talk to you Caz60 . Keep posting now you've found us . We do have a rant & sometimes a laugh
Hi my hubby is almost in late stage LBD.
He is aware of his need for the toilet but cannot sort the process so how long before things change again I don't know.
He can walk but only just and he is weak .
He hallucinates around evening time not always but that's a new symptom and he gets edgy and restless .His conversation is non understanding and he can't find the words .Horrible isn't it.xx
What an afternoon I had with OH all over eggs.I had boiled some eggs & left them on top to cool was gonna have egg sandwich for tea. I went in kitchen they were gone. So I just said have u eaten them 3 eggs. So he starts shouting what 3 eggs. Anyway short story is his jumps up of his chair (that's him that's not very mobile) & comes over to me right in my face & gave me a load of abuse. I did think for a minute he was gonna hit me. Told me to just get out called me everything but a lady . So I did have my say because dementia or not this is how he has been with me all my married life so can't blame dementia. I quite frankly have had enough of this . Tomorrow it's my walk in the morning all been well & it's not raining & then I'm back showered & out for the day . He can carry on as I need space away from him . Well that's my rant over ......
Oh sounds like you really got your hands full there Caz60. It is horrible really sorry he sounds well advanced. ...
Bad situation.
I wonder how you can cope.
Have you ever taken a care home into consideration?
My husband gets angry not only when I contradict him, but also when he does not understand what I tell him. It is always my fault, because I can't say things in a clear, concise, effective way!
About contradicting .. I often don't, but he thinks I do. Better not to utter a word .
You say that, dementia or not, your husband's bad temper has not changed much.
Some days ago I was thinking of my husband's behaviour towards me over the seventeen years of our relationship.
I tried to think of an occasion on which he was generous to me. I could find none.
He has always put himself first, and then himself and then himself and then himself...
I want to be honest, fair and correct towards him, but do not ask me for more.
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