Dear @vivian t - don't beat yourself up for having decided that a care home is the better option for your OH, bearing in mind your own mental and physical health, and that you should have a life as well. There would be no worthwhile point in you continuing to care for your OH if that meant you became a patient as well.I've made the heartbreaking decision that I can no longer care for my OH at home. We've been together 42 years. I've just seen the advert, it's made me feel even worse. Perhaps I'm more sensitive because of my situation but I too feel it's message is, you should look after your partner until they die because that's what you promised to do. I'm now in tears
You've done your best, but that shouldn't make you feel guilty for now doing what you see as the better option for your OH. You're doing this out of love.
The advert appears to pray on the "until death do us part" when I feel that's wrong medically.
Best wishes to you and a virtual hug.