Hi
Somehow I've ended up with my ex-husband aged 64 yrs lodging with me.
I just find it so frustrating and difficult to grasp that he is unable to understand that there is anything wrong with him.
A nurse came 6 weeks ago to do some tests, we've only just received her report which gives 21/30 on mini mental and 69/100 on the Addenbrookes cognitive exam. The report concludes that he declined further assessment (well he would do since he doesn't believe there's anything wrong) that due to the steep staircase my home is unsuitable and that we're being referred to the 'See and Solve' team. No mention has been made of the word 'dementia'
I just don't know what I'm going to find when I get home from work anymore - faeces smeared all over the bathroom then walked through leaving a trail to his bedroom, the front door left open, the electric oven left on (I turn the gas supply to the hob off overnight and when I go out). Then there's trying to get him to get washed and dressed. It's totally exhausting and a major bullying session to get him to wash and I'm not always successful. I'm going to try again tonight since it's now been three weeks again since he last showered - not funny when he's had more toilet accidents.
Part of me feels guilty that I'm not checking what he's taking of his medications - high blood pressure, statins, diabetes 2 etc - he's previously ,had a heart attack and a stroke, but part of me feels why should I? I've had decades of aggressive mental and verbal abuse from this man before finally having the independent financial means to be able to divorce him and yet I've still ended up unable to escape from him due to the emotional blackmail exerted on me by my sons.
Feel like I just want to cry and cry and cry
Somehow I've ended up with my ex-husband aged 64 yrs lodging with me.
I just find it so frustrating and difficult to grasp that he is unable to understand that there is anything wrong with him.
A nurse came 6 weeks ago to do some tests, we've only just received her report which gives 21/30 on mini mental and 69/100 on the Addenbrookes cognitive exam. The report concludes that he declined further assessment (well he would do since he doesn't believe there's anything wrong) that due to the steep staircase my home is unsuitable and that we're being referred to the 'See and Solve' team. No mention has been made of the word 'dementia'
I just don't know what I'm going to find when I get home from work anymore - faeces smeared all over the bathroom then walked through leaving a trail to his bedroom, the front door left open, the electric oven left on (I turn the gas supply to the hob off overnight and when I go out). Then there's trying to get him to get washed and dressed. It's totally exhausting and a major bullying session to get him to wash and I'm not always successful. I'm going to try again tonight since it's now been three weeks again since he last showered - not funny when he's had more toilet accidents.
Part of me feels guilty that I'm not checking what he's taking of his medications - high blood pressure, statins, diabetes 2 etc - he's previously ,had a heart attack and a stroke, but part of me feels why should I? I've had decades of aggressive mental and verbal abuse from this man before finally having the independent financial means to be able to divorce him and yet I've still ended up unable to escape from him due to the emotional blackmail exerted on me by my sons.
Feel like I just want to cry and cry and cry