I am feeling so lonely and lost tonight, tired of trying to navigate through wierd waters. I want to be loving and patient but the endless questions, the repetition, the reliance, anxiety and insecurity just wear me down and I don't like myself because of my reaction to it. i thought I'd had a Eureka moment a while ago when I realised that I was trying all the time to fight the dementia, to challenge it - "I told you that 5 minutes ago". " You know what day it is - check the calendar" etc. I read some insightful things here and realised that I must go with the flow, realise that dementia is an illness and the hurts are unintentional. But I miss my partner. I miss planning holidays, talking about anything and everything, watching TV together. Confiding in friends about how difficult life is just makes me feel disloyal. People tell me how important self - care is but how do you self care when any time out feels like betrayal? How do we stay sane? How do we like ourselves? How not to cry? I know this is all self indulgent but I think (hope)you will all forgive me because you've been here too. If anyone has any insights into how to cope, please share them with me.