Hi,
My grandma has dementia and i moved in with her to help take care of her a few months ago.
She just came out of hospital from her most recent admission (falling over) and I cant cope with how different she is now.
She can’t do anything for herself, however she is very determined that she wants to get up super early in the morning and go back to bed late at night and won’t let anyone help her aside from family giving food and drink.
Sometimes she gets up in the night and falls down, but won’t call for help. Her alarm has been tested and is fine but won’t pick up her falls. She’s doesn’t press it herself when she needs help, only when she doesn’t need help!
She will try and get dressed before the carers arrive so they can’t help with any personal care, but just puts new pull ups on top of old pull ups.
When they do arrive, she hits, kicks and shouts at them until they go.
Shes now stopped taking her medication from them.
She is very unstable (mobility wise) and should only be transported in her wheelchair, but she tries to stand and falls over instantly the second she is left alone (even when asleep and you think it’s ok to pop to the loo or make a drink).
She’s is now turning on her family and being aggressive to us.
The GP prescribed 0.5mg of Lorezapam to calm her, however when we gave it, it knocked her out completely for nearly 24 hours. We hade a nurse visit and she said we mustn’t give that tablet again unless absolutely necessary. She is also in heart failure so this medication really was a last resort.
If we don’t give it, she’s trying to run around the house (with her toilet frame as a walker), hitting, kicking and shouting at everyone. Falling over, refusing meds and obviously very distressed. In addition to that, she has lots of skin tears from previous falls that don’t heal which are at risk of infection (and often do get infected), she gets UTI’s and redness/sores from not washing/changing.
My question is what would be classed as absolutely necessary? Do we just keep following her around and trying to minimise the risks as best we can or do we give the sedative? Is the Lorezapam the right thing to do or are we being unfair to her?
I felt awful seeing her so sedated, but to be honest, it was the first time we could get near her to clean/change her, get her meds taken and the only night I managed to relax a little and get some sleep myself.
The carers visit four times a day, but I also have a six year old and I work full time (from home) so I am struggling beyond my limits with this.
My grandma has dementia and i moved in with her to help take care of her a few months ago.
She just came out of hospital from her most recent admission (falling over) and I cant cope with how different she is now.
She can’t do anything for herself, however she is very determined that she wants to get up super early in the morning and go back to bed late at night and won’t let anyone help her aside from family giving food and drink.
Sometimes she gets up in the night and falls down, but won’t call for help. Her alarm has been tested and is fine but won’t pick up her falls. She’s doesn’t press it herself when she needs help, only when she doesn’t need help!
She will try and get dressed before the carers arrive so they can’t help with any personal care, but just puts new pull ups on top of old pull ups.
When they do arrive, she hits, kicks and shouts at them until they go.
Shes now stopped taking her medication from them.
She is very unstable (mobility wise) and should only be transported in her wheelchair, but she tries to stand and falls over instantly the second she is left alone (even when asleep and you think it’s ok to pop to the loo or make a drink).
She’s is now turning on her family and being aggressive to us.
The GP prescribed 0.5mg of Lorezapam to calm her, however when we gave it, it knocked her out completely for nearly 24 hours. We hade a nurse visit and she said we mustn’t give that tablet again unless absolutely necessary. She is also in heart failure so this medication really was a last resort.
If we don’t give it, she’s trying to run around the house (with her toilet frame as a walker), hitting, kicking and shouting at everyone. Falling over, refusing meds and obviously very distressed. In addition to that, she has lots of skin tears from previous falls that don’t heal which are at risk of infection (and often do get infected), she gets UTI’s and redness/sores from not washing/changing.
My question is what would be classed as absolutely necessary? Do we just keep following her around and trying to minimise the risks as best we can or do we give the sedative? Is the Lorezapam the right thing to do or are we being unfair to her?
I felt awful seeing her so sedated, but to be honest, it was the first time we could get near her to clean/change her, get her meds taken and the only night I managed to relax a little and get some sleep myself.
The carers visit four times a day, but I also have a six year old and I work full time (from home) so I am struggling beyond my limits with this.
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