Oh I am sorry you are no further forward on this... It is agonising waiting for potentially life changing calls and then still not having got to the bottom of it. It's a lot on your shoulders. I understand you don't want to burden your daughters but I am worried about you bottling it up for a month or more. I wondered if your workplace was signed up to something like an employee assistance program? A friend used one when she was going through difficult times and said it really helped to just talk things through with someone. Best wishes x