Saffie, if it's any help, I did what Dhiren wanted, not what I wanted or what Paul wanted.
Dhiren made his wishes clear when he was well. We both knew he wanted to be cremated. We both knew he wanted his ashes scattered in the Ganges. When we came to live by the sea, I discussed the sea's link to the Ganges with him. He was happy with it.
It is fortunate both Paul and I are at peace with what Dhiren wanted.
Go with what you feel Dave would have wanted Saffie.