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A new stage in my life...................

Discussion in 'After dementia — dealing with loss' started by Grannie G, Jan 24, 2014.

  1. nitram

    nitram Registered User

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    "Sorry the photos are on sideways. I've no idea how to rotate them"

    All part of the free service.
     

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  2. Grannie G

    Grannie G Volunteer Moderator

    Apr 3, 2006
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    Thank you nitram . You are very kind. :)
     
  3. Loopiloo

    Loopiloo Registered User

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    How lovely to see Helen on a visit to you, Sylvia - and such a contrast between the two days weather!

    The paella looked good! I'm sure Harry was in The Tempest and enjoyed by all.

    Love to you both
    Loo xx
     
  4. Grannie G

    Grannie G Volunteer Moderator

    Apr 3, 2006
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    Harry was very good thank you Loo. We were impressed. :)

    Today saw another change in the weather. We woke to fog which hung around all day.

    Helen invited me out for lunch. We were able to have a pleasant walk down to the sea front and our restaurant but the fog was so thick we couldn't see the sea and could only see the waves breaking on to the beach by leaning over the railings.

    We enjoyed a delicious and very leisurely lunch before returning home. This afternoon and early evening was spent reminiscing about childhood escapades. We ended up in fits of laughter over the silliest stories and then I thought of dear Jeany and her family sitting with Allen.
     

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  5. Sue J

    Sue J Registered User

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    Lovely pictures of both you & Helen Sylvia, good to see you've both got good appetites, both meals look lovely:)
     
  6. Grannie G

    Grannie G Volunteer Moderator

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    Sunday fog, Monday almost continental sunshine . We walked to Ramsgate to visit a friend of mine. Another lovely day, saddened by Allen's passing.
     

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  7. chick1962

    chick1962 Registered User

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    Love Ramsgate :) such a great photo :) indeed very sad and I am sure Jeanie is in all our thoughts xxx


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  8. Grannie G

    Grannie G Volunteer Moderator

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    Thanks chick. Helen would have moved to Ramsgate if her illness hadn't been diagnosed. She loves it too.
     
  9. Canadian Joanne

    Canadian Joanne Volunteer Moderator

    Apr 8, 2005
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    Those are lovely photos, Sylvia. I particularly enjoyed the one showing you digging into your lunch with relish. What was your pudding? Because I know you had one.

    Give my regards to Helen.
     
  10. nellbelles

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    Glad you are both enjoying your time together. xx
     
  11. Grannie G

    Grannie G Volunteer Moderator

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    No pudding Joanne, scouts honour. We were too full and the puddings weren`t too tempting. :)
     
  12. flowerpot

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    Lovely to see you both together again. Your lunch looked lovely :) xx
     
  13. Helen33

    Helen33 Registered User

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    I've popped in to say "hello". I had to smile when Sylvia said I'd come for a short visit. After a month in India, all visits seem short LOL. I am here for 8 days. Eight days of feeling very indulged. I feel very at home here as Sylvia does when she comes to me. It's not often that people can be so relaxed with one another and we both know it's a blessing.

    The loss of Jeany's Allen is very much in our awareness. We both remember this time in both our lives and know that the process of loss and grief can't be bypassed. It is comforting to know that TP love and support is surrounding her.

    Love
     
  14. Grannie G

    Grannie G Volunteer Moderator

    Apr 3, 2006
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    After years of caring and loss it`s terribly difficult to get some form of life back. However distasteful it may seem to us, the alternative is becoming reclusive.

    I`ve always said I`d rather be alone than among people I had no connection with. I`m sure everyone will agree, the older we get the harder it is to make proper friends, not just acquaintances.

    During the 22 months since Dhiren died I`ve had eye surgery, been to India, scattered Dhiren`s ashes, returned to politics , tried several groups with U3A, attended a singing group, returned to Tai Chi, attended a Buddhist Group, started my own meditation group and tried to have something `to do` most days in the week.

    My aim is to return to yoga but for now I`m too heavy and feel too clumsy.

    I have discontinued U3A. It doesn`t suit me. I think in this area, for me, it is quite limited.

    It would be so much easier to sit at home and read. When I do sit at home, not only do I read but I also eat. :eek: :rolleyes:

    Yesterday I went to a Hard of Hearing Group. Most members were so much older than I am and however ageist, I didn`t feel ready yet to be part of that group. However, the welcome was amazing .

    It seems organised to a degree but in need of help. I think it`s very important this type of group is encouraged to thrive and doesn`t fall by the wayside . It was the first time ever I felt I was among a group of people who had similar hearing losses to mine

    Before going home I spoke to one of the `committee`. She said all the organisers were becoming too old to give the time and energy the group needs and so I offered my services. In the new year I hope to be able to do just that.
     
  15. Saffie

    Saffie Registered User

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    That is so positive Sylvia. I hope it is fulfilling and I'm sure your skills will be appreciated. x
     
  16. Izzy

    Izzy Volunteer Moderator

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    Well done Sylvia. That is excellent news. I'm sure your contribution will be invaluable.
     
  17. Cat27

    Cat27 Volunteer Moderator

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    That's fab Sylvia :)
     
  18. creativesarah

    creativesarah Registered User

    thats brilliant news Sylvia they will be so blessed to have you:)
     
  19. LadyA

    LadyA Registered User

    Oct 19, 2009
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    That is good news Sylvia. And even if they are all a good bit older - well, I used to tell William that however old I was, I'd always feel young next to him! :-D. He was 30 years my senior. And besides, groups like that can really benefit from someone younger being involved - it can energise everyone.
     
  20. Loopiloo

    Loopiloo Registered User

    May 10, 2010
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    That sounds so good Sylvia, you are obviously interested to have offered your services, enjoyed the people and I am sure you will be a real asset to the group. They will be so appreciative and you, hopefully, will get a lot of enjoyment and satisfaction from it. Plus all of you share similar hearing losses and such a group is probably thin on the ground.

    Oh and by the way, you do sound to have achieved a lot! But I know what you mean about becoming reclusive. I have had that forced upon me by my body letting me down and would not choose it. I do like my own company, when I want it, and enjoy company of people but not just for the sake of 'company'. However reclusiveness I do not like!

    A good way for you to start the New year, a new interest and involvement. Every good wish to you, looking forward to hearing how you get on.

    Love
    Loo xxx
     
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