Hello again Sylvia,
I was just going to bed and saw your reply. That is incredible, it makes one wonder and the first thought is you cheeky little monkey, but of course it is not like that. What you say though is true, it can sometimes be done spontanously but not by command. However I must just tell you about my husband quickly.
We had the assessment last Wednesday and part of it was done by the Senior Nurse in charge of the stroke unit. He runs two hospital units and has a fantastic background in stroke.
He had not seen my husband for 4 years and was pleasantly surprised.
He was here for 3 hours and did a very thorough assessment.
The miracle is that my husband responded to everything he said, including lifting a right hand and a right leg separately on two separate commands. My husband has never done that in the last 4 years. When he spoke with my husband he only said one sentence at the time and only once, waiting patiently for the response either verbally or a sign of response which he eventually got every time. He never repeated a question but just waited and waited and waited.
Afterwards I said how amazed I was and he explained that it is the only way the brain can process the request, question or whatever. If you talk before they answer the brain has to start all over again. If you repeat a question the same thing happens, you are just confusing the sufferer, and what he says works. It is very hard to do because you wait forever.
The same thing happens if my husband does speak, if I do not hear or understand and say pardon, it has gone and he cannot repeat it, so my loss. Fortunately he does not get frustrated when that happens.
You see we learn all the time, even after 4 years in this situation and I am still learning so much.
We are both fine here but have had a rather busy week. Mother's estate has been finalised this week. Massages, meetings and visits plus the garden enjoying the wonderful sunshine. Very hectic but that is better than being bored.
It is too late for me Sylvia I am off to bed. Take care and I look forward to hearing about your next visit.
Love x
I was just going to bed and saw your reply. That is incredible, it makes one wonder and the first thought is you cheeky little monkey, but of course it is not like that. What you say though is true, it can sometimes be done spontanously but not by command. However I must just tell you about my husband quickly.
We had the assessment last Wednesday and part of it was done by the Senior Nurse in charge of the stroke unit. He runs two hospital units and has a fantastic background in stroke.
He had not seen my husband for 4 years and was pleasantly surprised.
He was here for 3 hours and did a very thorough assessment.
The miracle is that my husband responded to everything he said, including lifting a right hand and a right leg separately on two separate commands. My husband has never done that in the last 4 years. When he spoke with my husband he only said one sentence at the time and only once, waiting patiently for the response either verbally or a sign of response which he eventually got every time. He never repeated a question but just waited and waited and waited.
Afterwards I said how amazed I was and he explained that it is the only way the brain can process the request, question or whatever. If you talk before they answer the brain has to start all over again. If you repeat a question the same thing happens, you are just confusing the sufferer, and what he says works. It is very hard to do because you wait forever.
The same thing happens if my husband does speak, if I do not hear or understand and say pardon, it has gone and he cannot repeat it, so my loss. Fortunately he does not get frustrated when that happens.
You see we learn all the time, even after 4 years in this situation and I am still learning so much.
We are both fine here but have had a rather busy week. Mother's estate has been finalised this week. Massages, meetings and visits plus the garden enjoying the wonderful sunshine. Very hectic but that is better than being bored.
It is too late for me Sylvia I am off to bed. Take care and I look forward to hearing about your next visit.
Love x