Dear Pam - so sorry to hear about Ed. I was so relieved when you said that the carers were able to manage his personal care and so sorry that you had to help when they were short staffed. As my husband is in a nursing home, there are more staff and it always takes 3 of them to do his personal care, even though he has been in care for about 2 and a half years. Like your Ed, he is very aggressive and he forgets immediately afterwards and even laughs and jokes with the carers when they are dressing him. They say things have slightly improved with a daily dose of lorazapam, and I am amazed how quick and efficient they are.
So sorry his legs are still swollen - you said he was off all medication but his legs must be painful - are they giving him anything for that? I think you are right not to want the hospital tests.
I am glad that the care home is doing the laundry now - but I really hope they can have more staff available for Ed when his personal care needs doing. It must be so upsetting for you. My thoughts are with you xx
So sorry his legs are still swollen - you said he was off all medication but his legs must be painful - are they giving him anything for that? I think you are right not to want the hospital tests.
I am glad that the care home is doing the laundry now - but I really hope they can have more staff available for Ed when his personal care needs doing. It must be so upsetting for you. My thoughts are with you xx