Dear oh dear, he actually said that?? Bloomin heck. Yes, I know people don't know what to say, I get that. Still does my head in though! Lovely to hear from you! Love and best, GeraldinexxI think you are right about people not knowing what to say. They can over identify too.
On TV a politician proudly said about policy that if it is not right for him is not right for anyone else.
I winched, because what right for him young, fit, able with transport may be the opposite of what is right for others.
Sweetheart, God bless YOU and I hope the trip goes well. Please tell us about it when o come back. with love, GxxYes, he was on the Politic Show.utterly clueless.
Lovely to hear your news.
Early start tomorrow, hospital trip for my husband to remove skin cancers.
He tends to be up in the middle of the night in case we are late. He has had a flare up of eczema, looks quite bad. I did explain early appointment are not a good idea with journey as well. But hospitals are not always dementia aware! So will try for an early night!. God bless x
I absolutely agree that medical training in dementia care in general hospitals is poor. When my husband had to go to hospital for treatment, I asked the various people if they were a dementia friendly department and that did help as it made them aware and they were receptive. I was a bit worried about the reaction but it was positive and I realised that there was awareness but only when you drew attention to the issue.I really smiled at your post, it sounds a fun place. It gives me hope.
We had a fairly good start, I was not disturbed too early, the storm was horrendous, I gather it was Storm Diana.
We were lucky as the 23 miles only took an hour and a half. Our volunteer driver has a large powerful car.
Sometimes the journey can be far longer. The motorway was full of lorries and spray, I put us in an imaginary bubble of peace and calm. OK the white van is pulling up outside now, but it works for me!
I had explained why morning appointments do not work but was given one anyway, I took it as it was important, I did not want to leave it until after Christmas.
We had to wait in a narrow corridor, we arrived early just after 9, in case we were late due to the traffic difficulties in the area.
The due time was 10.00 we were seen at 12.00. My husband was dosing on and off. I explained that we had a driver and his time was restricted. ( Volunteer usually have a two hour waiting time, this is an angel.)
Also it had been an early start, (he finally woke at 5) and I mentioned he had 'other problems'. The nurse took the point.
He was seen and the cancers zapped. The wounds are dressed with Vaseline and I have instructions to continue this. This information was conducted in a wider bit of corridor with both standing and people walking by, I did manage to get advice on eczema, this has flared up this week I think it is the anxiety that any appointment now generates.
Contact numbers were if I feel the wounds get an infection, no, I am not a nurse, but just added that to my CV.
We eventually got home somewhat overtired. This is a bit wordy but I needed to express why I find hospital not Dementia Friendly.
Now bless him he is sleeping.
I think that many medics have little dementia training, the lack of quiet space and time, inconvenient times.
I do not see why it could not have been carried out at the local hospital. It used to be.
They do not realise the anxiety engendered. The constant passing of people meant leg room was tight.
Much of this sounds petty except to people on here. Much of this is not about funding but policy.
It has certainly made me very protective and quietly determinedly assertive with a smile.
The blood of my Irish great grandmother lives!
Thank you for asking, Geraldine. Hospital visits affect us all.
I absolutely agree that medical training in dementia care in general hospitals is poor. When my husband had to go to hospital for treatment, I asked the various people if they were a dementia friendly department and that did help as it made them aware and they were receptive. I was a bit worried about the reaction but it was positive and I realised that there was awareness but only when you drew attention to the issue.
I like the sticker idea, perhaps we should stick them on the forms we fill in.Hi all - in my limited experience the geriatric ward in our local hospital was pretty good dementia wise. Mum had a very pretty and subtle forget me not sticker above her bed when she was there, as a warning to all comers! A & E though was dire - although they did get her into a curtained bay as a matter of priority, but the outpatients is consistently beyond the pale. Why is it when you try and explain that early starts are difficult, do they always offer you a 9 o clock appointment and basically say 'Put up with it'. I have had many a phone skirmish over Mum's appointments in the past. Hope your OH settles quickly after all the action @AliceA.
Glad Keith had a good birthday @kindred!
I want to know why the first thing everyone asks me about Mum is 'does she still know who you are' - they are literally busting to ask and find out. Like @Grahamstown said, I think they are just voicing their deepest fears about the disease.
We always sang 'Tarara Boom de ay - the Queen had twins today' - I was totally unaware of the underwear version! Next week I am having a carol sing a long with the residents (no tarara boom de ay there!), so I need to start brushing up on the old ivories - so many things have taken a back seat since Mum became poorly.
My Christmas patchwork cushions that the Manager bought have been dotted around in the CH coffee shop area. I rather immodestly think they look nice, but evidently so does everyone else. Too nice in fact. I have been asked for more! Lots of residents didn't get their act together at the Christmas Fair to buy one, and now they are thinking what a nice gift they would be for one of their family. I have none left. The Senior Activities Organiser asked me how many could I make before Christmas. Arrrrrrrggggghhhhh ....... - she doesn't seem to realise how long they take, and how much I have to attempt to fit in the periods between afternoons spent with Mum. I need 48 hour days and 14 day weeks.
At tomorrow's visit I am removing the roses with which I adorned the basket on Mum's zimmer, and replacing them with tinsel and the odd bauble. Very festive - hope she likes it and doesn't try to dismantle it instantly!
Keep warm, dry and well everyone
XX
Oh my darling, thank you for telling us and thank goodness you are home and safe now. Well done, this was an ordeal and so much anxiety ... yes, no idea, no idea they haven't got a clue what it does to us. Bless you, sweetheart, bless you. All my thoughts, with love and with you, GeraldinexxxxI really smiled at your post, it sounds a fun place. It gives me hope.
We had a fairly good start, I was not disturbed too early, the storm was horrendous, I gather it was Storm Diana.
We were lucky as the 23 miles only took an hour and a half. Our volunteer driver has a large powerful car.
Sometimes the journey can be far longer. The motorway was full of lorries and spray, I put us in an imaginary bubble of peace and calm. OK the white van is pulling up outside now, but it works for me!
I had explained why morning appointments do not work but was given one anyway, I took it as it was important, I did not want to leave it until after Christmas.
We had to wait in a narrow corridor, we arrived early just after 9, in case we were late due to the traffic difficulties in the area.
The due time was 10.00 we were seen at 12.00. My husband was dosing on and off. I explained that we had a driver and his time was restricted. ( Volunteer usually have a two hour waiting time, this is an angel.)
Also it had been an early start, (he finally woke at 5) and I mentioned he had 'other problems'. The nurse took the point.
He was seen and the cancers zapped. The wounds are dressed with Vaseline and I have instructions to continue this. This information was conducted in a wider bit of corridor with both standing and people walking by, I did manage to get advice on eczema, this has flared up this week I think it is the anxiety that any appointment now generates.
Contact numbers were if I feel the wounds get an infection, no, I am not a nurse, but just added that to my CV.
We eventually got home somewhat overtired. This is a bit wordy but I needed to express why I find hospital not Dementia Friendly.
Now bless him he is sleeping.
I think that many medics have little dementia training, the lack of quiet space and time, inconvenient times.
I do not see why it could not have been carried out at the local hospital. It used to be.
They do not realise the anxiety engendered. The constant passing of people meant leg room was tight.
Much of this sounds petty except to people on here. Much of this is not about funding but policy.
It has certainly made me very protective and quietly determinedly assertive with a smile.
The blood of my Irish great grandmother lives!
Thank you for asking, Geraldine. Hospital visits affect us all.
Absolutely, does he still know you, absolutely top question. Yes, it's their own fears. I now get endless questions about living alone ... again, they are projecting fears. Trouble is, these questions lodge in our brain and we have to be a bit resilient. Sometimes I answer by saying, well, who knows anyone, really ... !!!Hi all - in my limited experience the geriatric ward in our local hospital was pretty good dementia wise. Mum had a very pretty and subtle forget me not sticker above her bed when she was there, as a warning to all comers! A & E though was dire - although they did get her into a curtained bay as a matter of priority, but the outpatients is consistently beyond the pale. Why is it when you try and explain that early starts are difficult, do they always offer you a 9 o clock appointment and basically say 'Put up with it'. I have had many a phone skirmish over Mum's appointments in the past. Hope your OH settles quickly after all the action @AliceA.
Glad Keith had a good birthday @kindred!
I want to know why the first thing everyone asks me about Mum is 'does she still know who you are' - they are literally busting to ask and find out. Like @Grahamstown said, I think they are just voicing their deepest fears about the disease.
We always sang 'Tarara Boom de ay - the Queen had twins today' - I was totally unaware of the underwear version! Next week I am having a carol sing a long with the residents (no tarara boom de ay there!), so I need to start brushing up on the old ivories - so many things have taken a back seat since Mum became poorly.
My Christmas patchwork cushions that the Manager bought have been dotted around in the CH coffee shop area. I rather immodestly think they look nice, but evidently so does everyone else. Too nice in fact. I have been asked for more! Lots of residents didn't get their act together at the Christmas Fair to buy one, and now they are thinking what a nice gift they would be for one of their family. I have none left. The Senior Activities Organiser asked me how many could I make before Christmas. Arrrrrrrggggghhhhh ....... - she doesn't seem to realise how long they take, and how much I have to attempt to fit in the periods between afternoons spent with Mum. I need 48 hour days and 14 day weeks.
At tomorrow's visit I am removing the roses with which I adorned the basket on Mum's zimmer, and replacing them with tinsel and the odd bauble. Very festive - hope she likes it and doesn't try to dismantle it instantly!
Keep warm, dry and well everyone
XX
Oh my darling, thank you for telling us and thank goodness you are home and safe now. Well done, this was an ordeal and so much anxiety ... yes, no idea, no idea they haven't got a clue what it does to us. Bless you, sweetheart, bless you. All my thoughts, with love and with you, Geraldinexxxx
Absolutely, does he still know you, absolutely top question. Yes, it's their own fears. I now get endless questions about living alone ... again, they are projecting fears. Trouble is, these questions lodge in our brain and we have to be a bit resilient. Sometimes I answer by saying, well, who knows anyone, really ... !!!
Your cushions sound gorgeous. What, how many you could make before Christmas??? And I so love the idea of tinsel on the zimmer, bring it on!!!
And I will try that other Queen twins version, see if the residents know it!! Thank you so very much, brilliant to hear from you! Gxxxxwith love.