Thank you all so much for your kind enquiries. I sat holding John's hand all morning, during which time he opened his eyes briefly, a few times, but there was a complete blank look. I know violence cannot be tolerated, but the word "zombie" is entering my mind constantly when I look at him, and it's unbearable.
He's holding his side, and one of the carers thought this could be the kidney infection. As he only has one kidney, the other one having atrophied some years ago, I am worried sick as to what happens if this one fails too.
Teanosugar - I read your post in shock, disbelief, and then anger. I'm aware that NHS resources are stretched thinly, but is it too much to ask for a dementia patient to be watched whilst his concerned and caring daughter does a wee? Really?
I fear John may prove to be too challenging soon, and a move may well be on the cards to a different Home, or sort of Home. I feel that we must just battle, battle, battle for our loved ones, because they cannot speak for themselves, and I'm sure few people in The Real World have a clue what this is like for us.
Every time the phone rings, my heart goes in my mouth, and I'm constantly on edge. Once again, thank you all for your kind words, thoughts and love.