John is in good hands and you have more quality time than if you were struggling at home.
Jan, you're absolutely right. I'm really enjoying my visits. John is pleasant and contented, and no trouble at all to anyone. He smiles when he sees me, and happily dozes off after each meal. So I come away thinking how lovely it would be to have him at home.
What I don't see, and have to remind myself, is that he needs a nurse and two carers (plus hoist) to get him from bed to chair and vice versa, shower him, change him, dress his heel, etc etc.
I'm having the best of him just now, but it's human nature to want more, isn't it?
What are they planning for David now? I think this is the hardest stage, when the hospital say they can do no more, and you are left with the hardest decision of your life. Are you having any counselling from the hospital? I had a few sessions with a psychiatric liaison nurse, and he was tremendously helpful. I don't know if all hospitals have them, it's not something you think about until you need it!
Love to you all, and thanks for the responses. Just feeling a bit down just now, I know I've no real reason to be.