I’m new to this site and am at my wits end. My dad is 94 and lives alone with carers visiting 4 times daily and myself everyday. He is very placid and closed down, doesn’t watch tv or listen to the radio and sits in silence all day. He is very incontinent ( urine) and we manage this well during the day but for the past 6 weeks when he is up during the night he has taken to removing his pad and not replacing it. This is resulting in a wet bed everyday and numerous items of underwear sometimes up to 9 pairs of pants, vests etc I just can’t find a solution. I have enquired about waking carers but it’s completely out of budget. I’m his only daughter and I’m beginning to feel desperate, I don’t know when the right time is to put him in a home but feel like im drowning. If he wasn’t wandering at night he could continue to be managed at home quite well so this is my dilemma. Has anyone got any words of wisdom I feel so guilty for even thinking about a home but at the moment I have no life