Mums DST meeting with CHC and SS was on monday, my sister attended using teams. SW gave them my number but they didn't ring me, which was ok as my sister was involved on mum and our behalf. Mum scored low and moderate on the items on the checklist so it's doubtful she'll qualify for CHC funding but we weren't really expecting her to. Once CHC has done report she will send it to SS and also ring to let us know, then it'll be up to SS to make their decisions. Sis said she got impression it might be a while before it's all sorted. She thought both SS and CHC were fair and meeting went well. There was a bit of a problem with care home taking part so sis messaged me and I rang them, after some ringing round it seems the CHC sent the invite to wrong email address so eventually CH joined on the phone.
DM said mum wasn't as far along as most of their residents in the home but agreed she does need to be in CH. They've not seen much agitation or aggression from mum and she sounds easier to distract then when she was at home and in hospital. DM said mum does get grumpy when things aren't as she wants, or if she is told to do something she doesn't want to do. He said mum likes things her way and sometimes gets an edge to her voice and there has been some shouting to other residents and staff and she's been into other residents rooms a couple of times to shut them up when they were disturbing her. She also pushed a staff member once while they were trying to persuade her to have a shower and were trying to help her. DM said it doesn't often last long though and she often takes herself off to her room if she gets grumpy and is ok after a while. He said they are learning what does and doesn't work with mum and how to deal with her. They talked about how mum likes to appear as there is nothing wrong with her and she doesn't like to admit or accept she needs help. Some of mums triggers for her getting agitated and angry have been removed because she's not at home and it's not as noticeable she's not doing certain things like when she was at home and they thought that maybe her not being able to have visitors may have actually helped her to settle down a bit as she isn't seeing us and wanting to know why she can't leave with us and then getting worked up like she did in hospital.
They went through mums tablets with DM and it seems that mum is no longer on Galantamine, DM said mum wasn't on it when she came from hospital so it looks like mum hasn't had it for 2 months now. The hospital never said anything to us. She also on a blood thinner and statin now which is understandable due to the ocipital stroke they found, her high blood pressure and peripheral arterial disease she has in her leg.
When sis rang CH in week to ask how mum was DM told her they had started doing window visits so I could book one if I wanted so I rang on Thursday to book visit. I've not rung the CH myself for weeks as every time I think about it I end up crying but as I wanted to book to see mum I bit the bullet, put my big girl pants on, tried not to be so pathetic and rang, So I'll be able to see mum through the glass door on Saturday morning. I'm quite excited to finally see mum but also really nervous. I don't know if she'll recognise me as she often didn't when I was seeing her everyday and I don't know how she'll react. On the one quick outdoor visit I had with her before started off with mum a bit grumpy as she wanted to leave and moaned about food and being there but it did improve and was actually quite good but I don't know how this will go. Shouting through glass will probably make it a bit weirder. I only gave my name when they asked for it when I booked visit so it'll be just me and hubby will wait in car. He wanted to visit with me and I saw a pic on facebook of a couple visiting another resident but as I didn't mention him while booking think its probably best if he doesn't come. I don't know if he would confuse mum more as she seems to think I'm a teenager most of time now according to home but I'd have quite liked him to be with me for support which sounds silly as this is my mum who I've wanted to see for weeks and I'm sure I'll manage.
I am desperate to see her so I hope mum is pleased with me visiting and it helps her rather than upsets her