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@Woo2 @Sarasa xx The day wasn't bad but the evening wasn't good.
Mum was confused about her past again in the day, which is normal now, talking about my dad and her mum as if both were still alive, mixing up lots of other things but she didn't ask many questions. She was calling me Andrea but I wasn't her daughter Andrea, she hadn't seen her, she'd said she was coming but she hadn't, I wasn't her. But she wasn't angry about it. on few occasions I said I'm here or I'm her she just said No you're not and laughed and rolled her eyes at me. Early afternoon she asked me Where's our -(her brother) gone? She said he was here earlier, he was here this morning he must have gone out.
Then about ten minutes before I went home in the evening she called me Andie when she was telling me something like she knew who I was and then asked What have you been doing today then love? I said I've been here, Mum said Have you? looked puzzled and then said Sorry love I get mixed up. She asked me again a few minutes later and looked sad when she was apologising for not remembering so I make a joke about me not making much of an impression which made her laugh. Then she told me as I was getting ready to go home that she might walk down to her mums tomorrow if she had the energy so might not see me. As she was saying she might go tomorrow I didn't correct her as thought as long as not thinking of going tonight she'll probably just get upset if I remind her she's dead now so I didn't say anything. As she was waving us off she said it again I might be at my mums tomorrow so I might not be in, unless weathers horrible cos I'm not walking down in bad weather. So I said I'll ring you in morning then and see.
About 1/2 past 7, 5 minutes after we got home my uncle (mums brother) rang me, he said my mum had rung him and she'd been saying she hadn't seen me for months now cos I was living with -(hubby) and we'd got married and not told her. He said he told her we'd been married for years but she didn't believe him and told him she didn't see me now. He thought that was odd but he just wanted to check see if there was anything wrong with me. I told him I'd only been back from her house 5 minutes and I go every day but she often thinks I've not been cos she forgets and doesn't know who I am most of the time. We talked a few minutes about mum and he told me she'd been asking bout their mum again and didn't know she was dead when it happened in 1974 and talked about my dad having just left. I told him she's stuck then thinking its still new. He said she'd got bit angry and annoyed with him cos she didn't believe him.
Mum rang at 9 sobbing and told me her mum was dead, I tried to calm her down a bit saying I know it's sad but it was a long time ago. Mum kept saying she thought it was yesterday, her brother had only just told her. I tried explain he hadn't, she knew about it but had forgot , its sad but long time ago. She said she had nobody and was really sobbing, I said she had me and I'd be back to see her in morning. She said sorry and was going go and I told her try not be upset mum I know it's sad but it was a long time ago and then she hung up.
I waited a couple of minutes hoping to give her minute to settle and rang her back. She still thought it only just happened and not long time ago. I kept trying to tell her was 1974 and her mum was 50 when she died and I was only baby. She said her brother told her was yesterday and only just told her. I told her he hadn't he'd told her long time ago, she knew but just forgot when she's tired, usual thing about her brain being tired. Mum said Ok will I see her sometime and I said I'll come back tomorrow, I'll come and see you in morning.
I suggested she put something on tele and try not to think about things tonight cos she just gets mixed up when her brains tired and she'll be ok in morning. She said there was nothing on tele, I chatted to her bout what was on for minute. Then mum asked if I'd come home tomorrow, I said I was home I was at my home. Mum said I know you're at your house but will you come here to my house. I said Yes I'll be back tomorrow, about half ten. She asked where I lived and said not seen it I said she was here at weekend. She said Oh was I that's nice I'm glad I have been, but I can't remember. I told her she'd remember tomorrow. She started talking about not knowing about her mum and what she was doing so I told her to try not think too much bout things tonight, she'd remember tomorrow and I'd be there in morning. She asked few questions and was talking bout going then after I told her again Try not think bout it tonight and I'll see her tomorrow she said Mmm and hung up again.
Mum rang again at 20 to 11 asking if I got home alright. Saying sorry but she'd gone to her house today and started watching tele and doing her knitting and forgot to go home, she realised at half past ten but she wasn't going out in dark, but then she thought Oh what about our Andie did she get home ok. I said I'm home ok. Mum said Oh good I am sorry I didn't come home, I'll come back tomorrow, I'm at my house, do you know where I mean I mean my house? I said Yeah you're at your house that's where you live. Mum said No it's where I lived before with W (my dad). Not up there at our house but my house I had before you know where I mean, anyway it doesn't matter, I just wanted to check you got home ok cos I was worried but I just forgot I was here and didn't go home. I said It's Ok you stay there tonight don't go out now. Mum said I am I'm not going out now cos it's dark I'll come home in morning, I'll stay here tonight cos I;ve got my bed here.. I told her to stay there and I'd come see her in morning.
I think she thought I still lived with her in our old house and was home on my own. I said I was home and alright, she asked where our ny sister was and I said she was home at her house she was ok and mum said Oh good. Then she said I don't think W will come back. I said no he'll not come there. Mum said I don't know where he's been living, I don't know if he's been living here but he went when I came in. She said I didn't think he'd be here, I just thought I'd come down and look how my house was and he was in here but he left when i came in. I said He won't be back there tonight. Mum said I'll stay here and go home in morning. I said Stay there an I'll come see you in morning. Mum kept saying she was sorry she'd forgot about me getting home and asked if I was ok. I said I was and I'd go see her in morning. Mum said Ok love see you tomorrow.
Not a good evening as I was worried about her being mixed up and upset then hoping she would stick to what she'd said about staying where she was over night. I thought she would stay put as didn't want to go out in dark and knew I was ok but I was still worrying and sad at how confused she was.