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I'm so hoping mum starts sleeping ok and isn't going to be up worrying and mixed up. On her increased sertraline dose mum does seem calmer and less upset when she is questioning and mixed up in the day but if side effect is that she's not sleeping because caught up in questioning mixed up loops over night then that's not good. I'll keep an eye, or ear out for if mum keeps saying she's not slept properly so I can let Memory clinic know when rings again next week. Fingers crossed ? it doesn't keep on as that's not fair for mum.
I don't know if memory clinic can do another assessment, I assumed once they diagnosed mum that was it assessment wise.
I did tell her yesterday a bit about mum not knowing who I am a lot of time, or that I'd been there and what she was getting mixed up about and how she gets in loops of questioning for hours. That she had seemed calmer and happier since weekend and less upset and more accepting when she was questioning things. I didn't know if I was supposed to be telling her that sort of thing or just saying if mum had had any side effects.
She suggested if mum was mixing me up and not recognising me now maybe we could try making a life book with photos and maybe comments so mum could see us progress and age over years to help bridge the gap. And maybe use a notice board or something with dates on and put that I'd been so she could see I'd been. I said we could try that, mum has photos of us but they're all mixed up and often will say recent photos of me are 'friend' so in a date order type book with names might help. I said not sure about writing down I'd been though as mums not good with remembering to look at things wrote down and in past we did try leaving note saying been and when going again and mum either forgot look or rung up asking who had wrote note but didn't believe it. But maybe could try it again.
Mum was ok today mood wise but besides telling me she'd not really slept last night due to wondering where my dad was and thinking about him and woman she thinks he left her for and about them as a couple. She said she'd also thought she'd lost her wedding and engagement ring and had been worried about that. I suggested if she's thinking and wondering about things on a night to write it down to look at in the morning and then she can think I don't need to worry about that now I'll sort it tomorrow. She thought that was a good idea but really I don't think she'll remember to do it as I've told her lots of times in past but she hasn't really done it only a few times. I helped her find her rings where she usually keep them this morning and came across a pad and pen while doing it so I left them on bedside table just in case.
On and off all day she's asked quite a lot about our Andrea, where she is and if she knows where mum is. Asked me as Our Andrea where I live and if she's been to my house, how she gets there, how long I've been married etc, when did she last see me. She's asked a lot about when her and dad lived together, where was it, where is this house, did he live there with her. Lots about when and how they split up and when he met K and where they lived. What happened to her furniture from her other houses etc.. She has been calm about it and sort of accepted what I say without argument just said things like Oh I thought it was recent or I didn't know that and has also said quite a bit how weird or odd it is that she can't remember these things. She's not gone on continuous loops for ages today, mainly she's just asked a few questions at a time, then left it a little while before asking them again, or asking one of other questions so it's not been as full on questioning but still on and off most of time I was there.