Thanks for replies xxxxx I bit the bullet before lunch and decided to phone and see. Lady who answered said mum was ok just bit bored, I asked if she was still wanting to leave all the time and she said she wanders about a bit. I asked if thought it would be ok to talk to her on phone or if thought that might make her worse. She said she didn't know, I could try it if like and see. So I asked if had to book a time and she said No she could take phone up to her room now and see. While she was on way she said they'd just noticed some bruises on back of mums right arm did I know about them, I said No but I have noticed she has had them on top of her arm every so often before when she was at home and not known why, but I wondered if she held her arm when she was asleep cos she bruises easily. She said It could be. Then she must have got to mums room cos she said mum was there and told mum I was on phone.
Mum said Hello love,She sounded pleased to hear from me. I asked if she was ok and she said No I'm bored. She said there was nobody there and it was quiet. She told me she was only five minutes away, that she was near our old DRs and could walk it. I just mm'd. She asked if I could visit and I said not yet cos she's in isolation but I could in a bit. She asked a couple of times during call if she could go home, or how long she had to be there and if I could visit but she didn't get annoyed or upset when I answered, just accepted what I said and actually sounded ok not too sad or mad. I said I wasn't sure how long had to stay, maybe a few weeks, the DRs needed to monitor her after her fall and she seemed to accept it. She did say she could isolate at home but I said she needed to be where someone could report back to hospital and she said Oh yeah.
One time when she asked about me visiting and why I couldn't anymore I said I was isolating at home after going to hospital but I could do it at home cos I didn't need monitoring for the DRs like her but I should be able to go after that. She said Ok love and then asked How long did they say, 2 weeks? and I said Yeah think so. Mum said I've been in over a week already, I told her Not quite yet but I know it feels like it cos long days but it'll go by soon and when you're done isolating you can mingle and do more so it'll be better. Mum said I'm hoping to go home then. I said You have to stay a bit longer till DRs sure you ok but once yer done isolating you can go about and see other people and do more, Mum said see Who? there's nobody here? I said There is in other parts, it's just you're in isolation part and mum said Oh.
I asked if her room nice and mum said Yeah it's just boring. I asked if she was doing her puzzles and colouring and mum said she'd done them all, I asked All of them? cos I sent 3 books in and mum said Oh well I might a got bored on em. I asked if she'd been watching her DVDs and mum said she didn't know where they were. I said ask them when they next come in. The lady who'd took phone up must have been there cos mum asked her If she'd seen her DVDs and she said they were downstairs and she could bring them up. I told mum to ask them to put her one on. Said I'd sent her half a dozen including Vera cos she'd just started watching it at home. I said I 'd thought it might help pass her time so I'd sent her colouring books and puzzle books and magazine and some sweets and biscuits to help pass time. Mum said Thank you. I said I thought you could put home channel we used to watch on yer tele and do your colouring and puzzles, mum said she kept forgetting it was her tele. I said Yeah it's yours, you can put it on and ask them to put you a DVD on, mum said I will.
I asked mum about her bruises and she said she didn't know how she'd done them, I said Do you think you hold your arm in bed when you're asleep, mum laughed and said I don't think so, I said she sometimes used to have them at home and mum said I know I don't know what I do. I asked if maybe she bumped into a door frame, was there a door she goes through in her room she could have bumped. Mum said There's four. I said What four doors? and mum said No four bruises and laughed at me. She said she didn't know what she'd done but she bruises easy and never knows, which is true. Even before Alzheimers mum would have a bruise and not know how or why she got it, I'm the same. Then mum told me her thing was back on the back of her hand too, every so often she gets a deep red/purple mark on the back of her hand like a burst blood vessel, it's been happening for quite a while and we never known why. I said she needed wrapping up in bubble wrap, which had mum laughing again and saying It'd be a bit hot in bubble wrap.
Mum sounded ok, she wasn't angry or sad, she accepted what I said when saying had to stay where she was for a while. After we'd chatted a few minutes mum said You can ring again after a while so I said I would and we said bye, well mum said night night and then laughed, she used to do that a lot on the phone before, say night night even in the morning and then we said Love you lots. The lady who I spoke to first came back on and said they'd keep an eye on her for bruises if she bruises easy and I could ring any time. I said thanks.
When I hung up I thought I should have asked why mum didn't have her DVDs cos I was bit surprised she hadn't got them in her room, I'm now wondering if she has all stuff I packed for her to do. I don't know if it's being kept for a bit in case anything on them, or if she's not allowed to have them or something, but they never said anything when we asked about taking stuff in or when we dropped it off. I hope mum isn't just left sitting there with nothing to do, I'd hoped they'd suggest her doing some colouring, or puzzles, or putting tv on for her when they popped in to see mum. It could be mums just forgot what she has and what she's done, or that she said she didn't want them but it seems bit odd not to have DVDs in her room and now I'm wondering what else isn't there.
I felt a bit better when I first got off phone as mum hadn't sounded upset today like she was in hospital last time I saw her, but now I'm worrying about her being bored and if she has her things. My sister says we can ring and ask tomorrow and probably now I've mentioned DVDs they'll bring her them up, I hope so.
