My mum is 85, lives alone and has been diagnosed with mixed dementia. I live in another part of the country and my brother lives 30 mins or so away from her. We got LPAs for health & finance done a while ago. I am a nurse so am familiar with some aspects of dementia and dementia care.
My brother and I are trying to work out when we should step in and effectively make some decisions in my mum's best interest. She is still very independent in most aspects (mobility, personal care, maintaining her home). She passed her driving assessment two days before she was diagnosed and will be re-assessed in 6 months time. Despite all these positives my mum is definitely starting to struggle with managing her day to day life. Most recently she set her burglar alarm incorrectly and the alarm went off and being deaf she didn't hear it or the neighbours trying to contact her about it. I speak with her every day and she frequently struggles to remember where I live/am. She can almost never recall what she has done in the day or last couple of hours. Periodically she presents herself to neighbours appearing confused and asking them where she has been that afternoon. She had a flood recently which my brother dealt with but one carpet was completely soaked and she wanted to leave it down until my brother stepped in and took it up. My brother and I have not been accessing her bank accounts but have been keeping track of her bills and subscriptions etc and making sure they are still up to date for 18 months or so now.
We convinced her to accept a carer for one call one hour a week to try to get her used to the idea of a carer - she enjoys their company at times but when she loses items she starts wondering if they are stealing things (they aren't, the items re-appear). I would now like to go back to the carers and change the pattern of care and get her for example two calls a day for the purpose of company, orientation and reassurance. My mum will be self-funding and has very unrealistic ideas about what care costs. My question is at what point can we step in and effectively make decisions on my mum's behalf when it comes to structuring and paying for care for her. I am aware of the mental capacity act and think that my mum would probably fail an MCA assessment because her recall is so poor. Is this sufficient grounds for us to go ahead?
My brother and I are trying to work out when we should step in and effectively make some decisions in my mum's best interest. She is still very independent in most aspects (mobility, personal care, maintaining her home). She passed her driving assessment two days before she was diagnosed and will be re-assessed in 6 months time. Despite all these positives my mum is definitely starting to struggle with managing her day to day life. Most recently she set her burglar alarm incorrectly and the alarm went off and being deaf she didn't hear it or the neighbours trying to contact her about it. I speak with her every day and she frequently struggles to remember where I live/am. She can almost never recall what she has done in the day or last couple of hours. Periodically she presents herself to neighbours appearing confused and asking them where she has been that afternoon. She had a flood recently which my brother dealt with but one carpet was completely soaked and she wanted to leave it down until my brother stepped in and took it up. My brother and I have not been accessing her bank accounts but have been keeping track of her bills and subscriptions etc and making sure they are still up to date for 18 months or so now.
We convinced her to accept a carer for one call one hour a week to try to get her used to the idea of a carer - she enjoys their company at times but when she loses items she starts wondering if they are stealing things (they aren't, the items re-appear). I would now like to go back to the carers and change the pattern of care and get her for example two calls a day for the purpose of company, orientation and reassurance. My mum will be self-funding and has very unrealistic ideas about what care costs. My question is at what point can we step in and effectively make decisions on my mum's behalf when it comes to structuring and paying for care for her. I am aware of the mental capacity act and think that my mum would probably fail an MCA assessment because her recall is so poor. Is this sufficient grounds for us to go ahead?