My Tipping Point today.......
Having not heard from OH's children for weeks on end, I emailed son, to mention that I am in a lot of pain, and need a new knee. Son has PoA along with myself.
I told him op is a long recovery time, and could he give some thoughts to what we should do about his father in this time. My thoughts are diverse and could include a care home up in the area where OH would be near his own family.
Son emailed back, saying sorry he had not been in touch, but busy at work! Could I not go and live with one of my children while I recover, and leave Dad here with carers coming in 4 times a day. Or could I just stay here and fit in carers to help.
He does not understand. His father has no empathy for me being unwell, etc, I have a streaming cold, was awake most of the night before last with the pain in my knees, and went back to bed for a sleep yesterday. OH came and woke me to ask me to make his lunch.
Is he going to be any different when I am on crutches? No.
Can I stay with one of my children for a few weeks - well, we live in a bungalow, so that is a plus. None of my children have space for me to camp out in their house for weeks on end. One of my sons will have a new baby by then.
Oh life is so complicated when one is a carer
Rant over