Hi ,I am a 70 year old (in good health fortunately!) caring for my 76 year old husband (Mixed Dementia and many physical health problems too )at homeThank you for caring. There are no answers at the weekend or on holidays
He was diagnosed 7 years ago and at mid stage now .
The BEST step I took about 4 years ago was to open a joint bank account,and close the SEVEN‘secret’ accounts Hubby had!He was reluctant to do ANY of this ,as for the 30 years I have been with him (married for 20 years) he was mean ,secretive and domineering where money issues lay .
Anyway,we sold our house to buy a coastal Park Home ,he was reluctant but agreed.
When the Dementia was diagnosed we moved back to his home town and close to my children and grandchildren (his two children are another story!) and now live in Sheltered Housing (pay £750 a month rent and service charges ) so over the past 4 years have paid £36 k ,but you know what ,it was the BEST outcome imo ,as now have some money to fall back on from house sale and tbh Hubby doesn’t FINALLY care or ask about money/savings at all!
Had we still owned our own property,it would have likely been a very different story.
I’m so very sorry for the situation you are in ,it must be terrible for you .I know my comments haven’t probably helped,but I had a pal in very similar situation to yours and when her husband went into a Nursing Home last year,she was finally able to sell up (with significant family backing and a good solicitor) and has rented an easy run flat and is able to live now rather than just survive
Sending you so much support and hope things get easier for you really soon