Hi there
My dad has been diagnosed recently and has always been the rock for my anxious mum. She is v demanding of my dad but good at keeping track of medications and appointments etc and they are both poditive in outlook and continuing to do things in their village.
The meds seem to be helping my dad and he is finishing his sentences now. However mum has always deferred anything she sees as complex to dad even though she is capable. They dont want to look to the future and mum just trusts dad to make sound decisions as she always has. But sooner or later he will need to depend on her and they have no insight about this nor that they are in their 80s. They just want to carry on as always without making any adjustments.
Their bills are on direct debit but they are v reluctant to add my name to accounts so i can put their wishes into effect digitally.
I have done rough lpas for them to read and sign witu my brother who lives in the same village. I am a long way away and have no car.
can anyone suggest small steps i can encourage my mum to do which might help them gradually adjust before outside help becomes inevitable?
My dad has been diagnosed recently and has always been the rock for my anxious mum. She is v demanding of my dad but good at keeping track of medications and appointments etc and they are both poditive in outlook and continuing to do things in their village.
The meds seem to be helping my dad and he is finishing his sentences now. However mum has always deferred anything she sees as complex to dad even though she is capable. They dont want to look to the future and mum just trusts dad to make sound decisions as she always has. But sooner or later he will need to depend on her and they have no insight about this nor that they are in their 80s. They just want to carry on as always without making any adjustments.
Their bills are on direct debit but they are v reluctant to add my name to accounts so i can put their wishes into effect digitally.
I have done rough lpas for them to read and sign witu my brother who lives in the same village. I am a long way away and have no car.
can anyone suggest small steps i can encourage my mum to do which might help them gradually adjust before outside help becomes inevitable?
